Anger Management Therapist Overview

Medically reviewed by Paige Henry, LMSW, J.D.
Updated March 11th, 2025 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Anger is a normal emotion that can be healthy. Utilizing anger management tips can help those with unhealthy anger manage their emotions. When anger becomes unhealthy, finding an anger management therapist for your problematic anger can be beneficial. Anyone can use anger management services from a therapy professional.

Anger is both an emotional and physiological response. As a natural emotion, it can cause changes in body chemistry, leading to increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline. If you experience an anger problem or behaviors that are challenging to control, consider seeking professional help from a qualified therapist.

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Causes of anger

Anger is an emotion akin to sadness, fear, and love. It can serve a purpose, such as assisting people in managing threats by providing the physiological and emotional responses necessary to confront dangerous situations, ensuring overall health and safety. Moreover, feeling angry may signal to someone that another person's behavior is unhealthy, helping them recognize when to end a relationship. 

The intensity of the anger response can vary depending on the individual and the event that triggered it. Thoughts, memories, and past adverse experiences can be emotional causes or triggers for chronic angry outbursts involving conscious and unconscious processes. Additionally, stressful stimuli such as a new job, difficulties at work, or your car breaking down might cause anger and other negative feelings, potentially increasing the risk of mental health conditions if not properly addressed. 

Recognizing unhealthy emotions

Anger might become a problem when an aggressive response does not serve the situation or urges you to express an unhealthy behavior. If you experience rage on a daily basis or due to minor stress, finding therapy can help you learn about yourself and even manage your medication for anger

Anger management therapist and CBT

Therapists are non-judgmental and can provide a balance of wisdom, compassion, and listening skills to help you make sense of your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Anger management therapy can offer a safe space to address your anxiety, depression, or other feelings and can offer practical skills and self-control tips to manage anger. Utilizing cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and relaxation techniques, therapists can help you identify unhelpful thought patterns and practice skills to manage emotions effectively.

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Anger management therapists are licensed providers with experience treating various symptoms of mental health issues, mental health conditions, and emotional concerns. Therapists are trained to support various concerns, including anger management interventions. 

If you're seeking therapy for specific emotional concerns, there are various therapeutic approaches available to help you gain control over your anger and improve your well-being. Here are some types of therapy used:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for anger issues: CBT teaches clients to modify negative thought patterns that contribute to intense anger.
  • Conflict resolution therapy: This approach focuses on teaching individuals how to manage anger in relationships and resolve conflicts in a healthy, productive manner.
  • Trauma-informed therapy: Therapy focused on past trauma can help individuals understand how earlier experiences may contribute to current anger issues.
  • Family therapy: Family therapy helps to address how anger impacts family relationships and works toward healing and better communication.
  • Mindfulness-based therapy: Mindfulness techniques are incorporated to help individuals stay calm and aware, especially when experiencing intense feelings of anger.
  • Solution-focused therapy: This approach emphasizes practical solutions and goal-setting, helping individuals deal with anger more constructively.

Types of therapists for anger management

If your uncontrollable anger affects your marriage or family, a professional marriage and family therapist (LMFT) specializing in anger management therapy works effectively to support everyone in the family as they understand how anger functions within the family unit. Whether your family opts to join you in therapy or you prefer to go alone, cognitive anger management therapy can help you find the tools to improve your relationships, treat anger, and mitigate the increased risk of a mental health condition. Here are a few other ways therapy might be able to assist you.

Addressing causes of anger with your therapist

An anger management therapist can do more than provide you with techniques for managing your emotions. A qualified mental health specialist can help you understand the sources or psychological roots of your anger, common triggers, and other important information about being an angry person or a person who experiences anger frequently. For instance, if you commonly find yourself angry at work, you and your mental healthcare provider can discuss why work triggers distress and develop a unique treatment plan to help you avoid outbursts, negative thought patterns, violent behavior, or unwanted actions.

Understanding your past 

A professional mental health therapist can also help you examine your life experiences and how they might contribute to your anger issues. Working through memories, relationships, negative events, or thought patterns can allow you a greater self-awareness to understand the root of anger.

Practicing impulse management

If you struggle to not follow through on angry behavioral urges, your counselor can teach you new skills and techniques to calm yourself down or remove yourself from a situation or problem before reacting. Practicing and implementing impulse control with the support of a professional can allow you to understand the differences between an urge, an emotion, and behavior when you're feeling frustration arise. 

Types of anger therapy

Various forms of therapy may be effective in treating emotional concerns. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is commonly used to address chronic anger issues due to its approach to changing thoughts and beliefs to change behaviors. 

Another method that may be used is psychodynamic therapy. This type of anger therapy uses self-reflection to help clients discover the potential root causes of anger and other symptoms or emotions. 

At-home anger management

While you're in the process of seeking and obtaining professional help, you may also consider at-home anger management therapy techniques, including the following. 

Box breathing

Breathing techniques can help you control your nervous system by allowing oxygen to circulate properly. Focusing on an exercise like box breathing could help you feel more in control of your body while you're upset. You can try it through the following steps: 

  • Take a breath in for six seconds
  • Hold your breath for five seconds
  • Breathe out for six seconds
  • Hold your breath for six seconds
  • Repeat the exercise until you start to feel more relaxed

Remove yourself from the situation to protect your mental health

As a short-term strategy, leaving a situation when you feel angry may help you control your emotions and avoid negative consequences. If you feel angry with friends or family, let them know you're going to step outside for a moment and try to wait until you feel less angry to come back to have the conversation. 

Physical activity 

Some people may find that partaking in healthy physical activity like running, stretching, or swimming can relieve feelings of anger. When exercising, your brain releases endorphins, often referred to as "happy chemicals," that can improve mood, physical health, and well-being. 

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Anger management classes & counseling

Like a trainer at a gym may coach you through using exercise machines safely, a professional therapist can coach you on how to deal with anger safely. In anger therapy, you can learn ways to feel mentally and physically healthier over time. Therapists may utilize CBT techniques, stress inoculation training, or another type of anger management technique. The American Psychological Association has noted that excessive anger can lead to numerous adverse health outcomes over time, including decreased neurological functioning, high blood pressure, heart disease, memory loss, immune concerns, and digestive problems. Anger therapy with a trained mental health professionalcan allow those struggling with anger issues to care for their body and mind simultaneously.

Online anger support

Online anger therapy is a simple way to get help managing your anger without leaving home. It lets you talk to a caring counselor on your schedule so you can learn healthy ways to handle your emotions and improve your mental health.

Online therapy and mental health support

There are multiple options when it comes to finding a mental healthcare provider, including anger management classes and support for other mental health issues and conditions. For example, online therapy can be a more discreet option for receiving anger management treatment from a mental health professional.

Online anger management therapy can be arranged around your life. Online anger management counseling is truly a lifesaver. In addition, you can use a nickname through some platforms, allowing you to receive treatment discreetly. One study on internet-based interventions for anger and aggression found it as effective as in-person therapy. If you're interested in trying online anger management therapy, consider signing up through a platform like BetterHelp, which allows you to match with a counselor within 48 hours.

Takeaway

Anger can be a challenging emotion to manage alone. If you’re someone who experiences anger issues, you may first want to rule out potential underlying health problems that may be contributing to your anger and then consider working with a therapist to address your concerns. Support is available through many forms of anger management therapy, including online therapy. If you're looking for a provider in your area, you can also consider asking your primary care doctor for a referral. Regardless, reaching out to a licensed therapist can get you started on reducing anger's impact on your life.

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