Attachment Based Therapy And Mental Health

Attachment based therapy stems from attachment theory, which posits that how you were treated as a child may influence your relationships as an adult. Those who experienced challenging or dysfunctional relationships as children with unmet emotional or physical needs may experience relationship problems or mental health problems later in life. Learning about attachment styles and attachment based therapy may help you explore potential solutions and types of treatment with a mental health professional.  

What is attachment theory?

Attachment theory suggests that how primary caregivers treat children and how they form a strong early attachment establishes how that person will relate to others throughout their lives. This theory of early attachment wounds influencing adult attachment patterns aligns best with the attachment parenting style. Psychologist Mary Salter Ainsworth later worked with Bowlby to refine the theory and develop the four primary attachment styles.

Attachment styles

There are four primary attachment styles, including the following: 

Secure attachment 

Anxious attachment 

Avoidant attachment 

Disorganized attachment style (fearful-avoidant) 

What is attachment-based family therapy?

Attachment based therapy, also called attachment therapy or attachment-based family therapy (ABFT), is a style of counseling based on Bowlby’s theory centering on the role of interactions between children and their parents or guardians. Attachment based therapy developed from attachment theory, which suggests that our earliest relationships with caregivers shape how we perceive and respond to the world. Attachment based therapy is often used to treat children and adolescents with emotional and behavioral issues rooted in childhood trauma and insecure attachment styles. Attachment based therapy often addresses attachment concerns in adults with complex trauma or adverse childhood experiences. 

Peter C. Costello, Ph.D., author of Attachment-Based Psychotherapy in Practice, states, “Attachment based therapy is an approach to therapy that specifically targets those thoughts, feelings, communications, behaviors, and interpersonal exchanges that patients have learned either to suppress and avoid or to amplify and overemphasize because of early attachment experiences.”  

Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) is a condition in which a child has difficulty forming a healthy attachment to their primary caregivers. This is often due to severe neglect, abuse, or frequent changes in caregivers during early childhood. Attachment-based therapists are trained to work with children and families dealing with RAD, aiming to help them form strong early attachments and develop healthy attachment patterns in the future.

What to expect from adult attachment based therapy

Attachment patterns developed in early childhood can persist into adulthood, influencing adult relationships and human development. Attachment based therapy can help adults recognize and address their attachment patterns, allowing them to build healthy attachment habits in their relationships and improve their mental health.

Individual attachment based therapy may focus on helping clients overcome the effects of insecure attachments formed during childhood. In this type of treatment, expect to discuss your past experiences and family relationships as you build trust with your therapist. Attachment-based family therapy may shift toward helping you express and explore your feelings and how they relate to your behaviors to create functional, healthy relationships. 

While attachment disorders are only diagnosable in children, adults can experience insecure attachment styles, trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder, and relationship difficulties. Adult attachment patterns include secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. Working with a therapist can help a person develop communication skills to form meaningful connections with others and maintain them throughout time. You might consider attachment-based counseling if you find it challenging to make yourself emotionally vulnerable or trust others. 

How attachment-based therapy works

Various attachment-based therapies are available, and your counselor may examine your situation to decide which type will benefit you most. A few ABFT techniques include the following: 

Attachment based therapy for children, teens, and families

Attachment-based family therapy should not involve harmful practices like rebirthing therapy, forceful touch, physical restraint, or hypnosis to manipulate a child, teen, or adult These practices are banned and unethical. However, if you see them occurring or are suggested a similar type of therapy, report it to your state board. 

For adults

• Practicing self-compassion
• Gaining communication and conflict-resolution skills
• Building trust with a therapist to facilitate open communication
• Conducting an Adult Attachment Interview or attachment-style quizzes
• Providing psychoeducation about attachment styles and healthy human development
• Building insight and resilience

Benefits of attachment therapy and family therapy

Lingering issues may affect a child’s ability to have positive interactions and meaningful relationships with others as an adult. Through working with a therapist in attachment based family therapy, many people with insecure attachment styles may gain a sense of security for themselves and those they love.  

While how you relate to others may have been developed during infancy and childhood, you can overcome unhealthy attachment styles and habits. Many studies have found that insecure attachment styles can change with therapy and an extensive understanding of how attachment works.

Is attachment-based therapy effective?

Researchers at the Drexel University Center for Family Intervention Science state that attachment based therapy is an empirically supported treatment with a process-oriented, trauma-informed approach to treating suicidal behaviors and mental health conditions associated with depression and trauma. An attachment-based approach offers therapists “a clear structure and road map” to help them address attachment at the core of a family.  

However, the effectiveness of attachment based therapy can also depend on personal factors. You may have to be willing and comfortable for the therapy to work. Building a trusting, supportive relationship with your therapist can be crucial to the attachment therapy process. If you feel your therapist has harmed you or is not compassionate, you might not benefit from discussing sensitive topics with them.

Who can benefit from attachment therapy?

Attachment based therapy can be conducted in multiple therapeutic settings. You might choose between individual, family, couples, or group therapy for you, your child, or your family members. If you or one of your loved ones have experienced trauma or are living with an insecure attachment style, this type of therapy with an attachment based therapist may be beneficial.

Attachment therapy may also benefit the following individuals: 

• Adopted children or individuals in prior foster care removed from their birth homes or those experiencing adoption or foster-related trauma 
• Children of parents living with a mental health condition 
• Those who have experienced trauma, abuse, or neglect from a primary caregiver 
• Adolescents experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts
• Adults experiencing fear of abandonment, trust issues, or anxiety
• Adults with difficulty controlling or expressing emotions 

Is attachment-based therapy right for your mental health goals?

While attachment based therapy may not work for everyone, past researchers like Bowlby believed that all adults have an attachment style. If you are experiencing an insecure attachment style, you might find attachment based therapy beneficial, even if you felt your childhood was not traumatic or challenging. Attachment therapy can help you learn more about your current behavioral patterns and relationship goals.  

Counseling options 

While you may be aware of your past, seeing how those experiences influence you as an adult can be challenging. Consider speaking with a therapist if you struggle to relate to others or build and maintain healthy, functional relationships. Attachment based therapy may help you reshape your perspective about yourself and others in relationships while building communication skills. You may learn more about the family process and its influence on your ability to form a secure relationship when you meet someone new. 

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