Identifying Depression In Your Child
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Depression warning signs in adults are often relatively straightforward. Compared to children and teens, more adults with depression tend to be self-aware enough to know that they are feeling depressed or are in the midst of a depressive episode.
Most children and adolescents have not developed that level of self-awareness yet and may not think anything of mood changes, a low mood, even if they seem to feel sad all the time. They may not know how to communicate their feelings and lack the language skills to describe depressive symptoms. This underdeveloped self-awareness and lessened ability to express their feelings may make symptoms of depression in children look very different than in adults.
That said, if you look closely enough for symptoms, pay attention to their mood, and consistently keep track of your child’s behavior, you may be able to identify and help them with treating their depression.
It is important to note that symptoms of depression may manifest differently from child to child, and what resembles depression for one may not for another. The following symptoms are meant to be used as a baseline guide; if you are concerned that your child has depression, contact a mental health professional specializing in treating mental health conditions like depression in children.
Symptoms of depression in young children
Research suggests that children as young as three years old can begin showing symptoms of depression. Children who have not yet developed the ability to understand and translate complicated feelings often have some of the most varied symptoms. If you suspect that your child feels depressed, it might help to look for some of the most common depression symptoms in young children, such as:
Changes in appetite, either acting hungrier or saying that they are not hungry
Changes in attitude, being more negative towards things, acting agitated and angry, or feeling sad constantly
Expressions of excessive guilt, taking responsibility for things that aren’t their fault.
No desire to play or engage in normally pleasurable activities
Less energy, which may manifest in slower movement and speech
A marked change in your child’s sleeping patterns, either sleeping less and having trouble sleeping or sleeping excessively
Having difficulty focusing and concentrating
Complaining about tummy aches and headaches (physical manifestations are common in all age groups that are experiencing depression)
Depression in children may be challenging to identify; however, it is not impossible. It requires attention to changes in behavior to identify any pressing underlying issues. Sometimes those issues may require that you seek professional help for your child.
Symptoms of depression in adolescents
Teen depression does come with similar symptoms that can tip you off to a potential issue. Here are some of the common symptoms of depression in adolescents that may differ from child depression:
Feelings of sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, helplessness, and other emotions that commonly accompany depression. Some teens may also have feelings of numbness or emptiness.
Anger, irritability, and snapping at people around them.
Social isolation from friends or withdrawal from family and pulling away from activities or things they previously enjoyed.
Notable changes in sleeping patterns, either sleeping too much or too little.
Notable changes in eating patterns, either overeating or eating too little
Difficulty focusing and concentrating, which may result in lower grades at school. Your teen may also act out more at school if they are experiencing depression.
Mental or physical fatigue.
Aches and pains around the body without clear explanation that are resistant to standard remedies.
Restlessness, difficulty staying still.
Engaging in risky behavior or self-harming.
Experiencing suicidal thoughts.*
Some of the above can be associated with changes throughout puberty, but the majority of these, when noticed together, may point to a deeper issue. If you start seeing these behaviors within your child, let them know that it is okay to confide in you or another adult they trust about their feelings. This might help get their depression diagnosed early so you can explore treatment options as close to their first episode as possible.
Consider asking your family healthcare provider about the possibility that your child is depressed during their next physical exam.
Causes of depression for children and adolescents
Not all depressive episodes have a specific reason for their development. Sometimes, depression may develop on its own. However, depression can also occur due to an external situation that causes mental stress for a child. Some common causes include:
Bullying at school or online
Intense stress, whether at school or home
A life-changing situation, for example, the death of a loved one, parental separation, or other traumatic occurrences.
Health issues that cause significant daily pain and difficulty
One or more caregivers with a mental health issue, substance use disorder, etc.
Children with a family history of mental health conditions like bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder, and anxiety might be at a higher risk of depression.
Staying alert to these causes can help you better understand the origins of your child’s depression, paving the way for change that prevents future risk.
How can I help my child if they have depression?
If you believe that your child does have depression, taking the next step towards treatment can help equip both you and your child with the knowledge and skills needed to cope with its symptoms and create a healthy, balanced foundation for healing. Here are some tips on how you can get started:
Seeking out help for childhood depression symptoms
Consult your child’s primary care physician or reach out to a mental health professional who can better understand your child’s symptoms (whether those are associated with depression or are part of a different mental health issue) to provide a diagnosis and develop a treatment plan. This treatment may consist of talk therapy or a mix of talk therapy and medication, depending upon the severity of the symptoms.
Making mental health-oriented lifestyle changes
As a parent, you can help your child cultivate better lifestyle habits and coping mechanisms that will continue to benefit them throughout adulthood. While lifestyle changes will not treat child and adolescent depression, they can still support symptom management when your child is depressed. Some of the healthy lifestyle habits you can help your child cultivate include:
Regular exercise and movement.
Keeping a regular sleep schedule
Healthy social engagement with peers.
Spending quality time together doing their favorite activities.
Practicing relaxation and mindfulness exercises
Eating a diet with nutritious and healthy foods
One of the most critical aspects of this process is to grow and learn with your child to strengthen your communication and cultivate awareness about their mental health so they can recognize signs and symptoms of depression. Even though you can provide a solid, loving foundation, depression in children should always be addressed with the help of a mental health professional who understands a child’s unique perspective.
Get professional support for childhood depression and major depressive disorder
An essential part of caring for children and teens experiencing signs of depression includes taking care of yourself. Caregiving comes with its own set of challenges that you may need help coping with, particularly if you have a history of mental health issues like anxiety, depression, trauma, and more.
Despite its importance, some parents don’t get the help they need. This may be because of availability issues when they try to find a doctor or therapist. It may also be due to challenges attending and commuting to sessions around school, work hours, or extracurricular activities. Cost may also be an issue, as many in-person therapists don’t accept insurance.
Online counseling platforms like BetterHelp can provide a solution to these barriers with professionals who specialize in treatment methods like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a structured form of psychotherapy that focuses on identifying and challenging negative thought patterns and behaviors to promote healthier coping strategies and improve overall mental well-being. Online therapy has been found to be as effective as in-person therapy for treating many mental health disorders via methods like CBT, often for less than in-person therapy without insurance. With online therapy, you can connect with a licensed therapist from the comfort of your home on a schedule that fits your lifestyle.
Caring for your mental health is important if you want to support your child better. Reach out to a therapist anytime you are ready to get started.
Takeaway
Because of persisting stigma and misinformation around child and adolescent mental health, parents may not know how to identify and address depression in their children. If you think your child is experiencing symptoms of depression, it’s vital to seek professional help. If your child is between the ages of 13-18 years old, Teen Counseling is available online through the BetterHelp platform. With some education and the help of a therapist, you can help your child on the road to healing.
Which symptoms are commonly seen in a child with depression?
Childhood depression symptoms can vary but often include persistent sadness, withdrawal from activities once enjoyed, and changes in appetite or sleep patterns. If a child is depressed, parents may notice signs of irritability or changes in academic performance. If a child expresses feelings of hopelessness or shows signs of self-harm, it is important to consult their doctor or therapist immediately.
What triggers childhood depression?
Childhood depression can be triggered by different factors, including genetics, environmental stress, and major life changes. Family members' mental health, such as a history of depression or other mental illness, may also increase the risk of depression. It may be helpful to consider any recent changes or stresses in the child's life that could contribute to symptoms.
How do I know if my child has anxiety?
Signs of anxiety in children might include excessive worry about everyday activities, physical symptoms like stomach aches or headaches, and avoiding situations that make them anxious. Children with anxiety may also have trouble sleeping or concentrating. If these symptoms persist for a few weeks, it's recommended to discuss these concerns with the child's doctor or a mental health professional.
Can childhood depression be cured?
While there is no one-size-fits-all cure for childhood depression, many children find relief through a combination of therapy, medication, and support from family and other adults. Family therapy may be especially beneficial for resolving problems in the child's environment that may contribute to their depression. If there is a concern for substance use or other serious problems like thoughts of suicide, immediate professional intervention is key.
How does childhood depression affect the brain?
Research suggests that prolonged depression in childhood can lead to changes in brain structure and function. The areas affected by childhood depression may include those involved in emotion control, memory, and decision-making.
What age can kids be diagnosed with depression?
Children can be diagnosed with depression at any age, though it's more commonly recognized in adolescents. Younger children might not be able to express their feelings of sadness or hopelessness, which is why it's important for parents and other family members to be aware of the signs of depression and seek professional help when needed.
What are the different kinds of childhood anxiety and depressive disorders?
Childhood anxiety and depressive disorders include a range of conditions, such as generalized anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, and persistent depressive disorder. Each disorder has specific criteria and symptoms, which a child's therapist or doctor can evaluate.
How can I treat my child's anxiety naturally?
Treating a child's anxiety naturally might include making sure they get enough sleep, regular physical activity, and a balanced diet. Mindfulness practices, relaxation techniques, and supportive family therapy may also be helpful. In addition, it can be helpful to create a supportive environment and encourage communication about feelings and concerns. However, if symptoms persist or worsen, professional guidance may be needed.
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