Family Counseling Services

Medically reviewed by Kimberly L Brownridge , LPC, NCC, BCPC  and Julie Dodson, MA, LCSW
Updated February 12th, 2025 by BetterHelp Editorial Team
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Conflict within a family is not unusual; it’s often a part of living in a community with people who each have their own individual personalities, goals, and needs. However, if the conflicts have become too big to resolve and are starting to manifest as family dysfunction, your family may benefit from some outside help from family counseling services to support everyone’s mental health. Below is a discussion of some common types of conflicts families may face, as well as some information about how to resolve family conflict along with family counseling options, including family therapy services, which may be accessed at a center dedicated to family well-being.

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Common sources of family conflicts

Each family may have its own unique set of concerns, such as anxiety, depression, marriage, anger management, or parenting issues, that could end up affecting the well-being of everyone in the unit.  There is a wide array of reasons why families may seek professional counseling services to help resolve conflicts. Clinicians like social workers and counselors, often based at a family counseling center, provide these family therapy services, assisting families to achieve their mission of harmony and resolution. Below are some of the most common reasons to seek family counseling services.

Mental or physical health challenges

Some mental or physical illnesses or disabilities may be difficult for both the person experiencing them and their loved ones. The individual may require frequent care or more attention than other relatives, which can take a toll on caregivers or siblings, highlighting the potential need for family therapy services offered at a counseling center. Or, the individual may resist or avoid seeking the treatment they may need, which can result in loved ones experiencing the strain of constantly looking out for or worrying about their wellbeing. The individual experiencing the mental or physical illness may also have complicated feelings about their role within the larger family unit, which could benefit from family therapy services provided at a counseling center.
Major life transitions or events
Experiencing an event that significantly impacts a larger dynamic or the emotional state of loved ones may also be the reason for seeking counseling services at a dedicated counseling center. This type of event could be planned, like a move to a different city or a pregnancy or adoption. It could also be unplanned, like a divorce, job loss, or the loss of a loved one, prompting some families to seek support from a counseling center. A counselor at a counseling center may assist families in situations like these process and heal from the transition both individually and as a unit through various family counseling services.

Blended families

Blended families consist of children from different relationships—such as half-siblings or step-siblings—now living as one, new unit. Putting young or even adult children from previously separate units into the same dynamic or even the same household can be a big change for everyone involved. A family counseling session, incorporating family therapy services, may be able to give all parties a safe space to discuss their emotions related to the transition and to find compromises between each original unit’s preferred way of doing things, often facilitated at a counseling center.

Past trauma
Sometimes, the health and wellness of a family is affected by past experiences rather than by a current situation. Counselors and other family therapy services, often available at a counseling center, can help these clients remember and identify the emotions they felt during past traumatic times and work through the associated feelings that might be affecting them in the present. 
  • Family counseling services can help the family heal so they can move forward in a healthy way.
Cycles of blame
When a conflict is not adequately resolved, some families may fall into the unhelpful habit of blaming those around them instead of seeking helpful solutions, which is where family therapy services can provide valuable guidance. Children who see their parents or caregivers engaging in this cycle of negative interactions and unproductive blaming may learn those unhealthy habits or even internalize the blame themselves. 
Blaming someone else for past mistakes or conflicts might temporarily make a person feel better, but it’s not likely to repair the present—nor does it set a person or family up for a healthy future. Getting stuck in the cycle of blame usually means that the people involved have stopped listening to each other, which is where the help of a professional through family therapy services, often offered at a counseling center, can be useful.
  • A counselor may be able to help everyone unpack the original issues through family counseling services and resolve them so they can move on.
Cycles of abuse
Abuse within a family may take many forms, from emotional or psychological to physical or sexual. Family counseling in cases of abuse may take place after the abuser has been removed from the home and the other members can begin healing. Or, it may involve trying to find ways to change the abuser’s behavior and keep the unit together by healing together through counseling or other professional family therapy services. Since abusive behavior is often passed down through generations, a counselor, often works at a counseling center. may also be able to help the adults in the family examine and heal from any abuse they suffered in childhood to improve the dynamic with their own children through counseling or other family therapy services.

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Types of family therapy

The purpose of family counseling services is to help a family learn to relate to each other in a healthy way. The family counselor may do this by opening up productive lines of communication, assisting in conflict resolution, and initiating the healing process if necessary, utilizing therapy services to support these efforts. The type of counseling interventions used will largely depend on the issues faced by the family seeking counseling services. Below is a discussion of some of the common types of family counseling services in use today, many of which are offered at a counseling center.

Family systems therapy

One common form of counseling services is family systems therapy, which is based on ideas that come from systems theory. Systems theory, often applied in therapy services, attempts to explain how people think and behave based on the complex networks of relationships in which they live, and on how each of those networks operate as complete units. Systems in which a person might find themselves include school, the workplace, and the family. The theory behind this method, often used in therapy services, is that people can’t be fully separated from their family relational systems, which is why it takes the approach of treating specific relationships and issues within the family unit. 

Structural family therapy

A primary tool involved in structural family therapy is the family map. This form of organization tool is used as a springboard for understanding and discussing different family dynamics, allowing the counselor to utilize therapy services to help the family learn healthier ways of interacting with one another. These types of family counseling services look at the family holistically, examining how the entire unit is affected by certain patterns and interactions.

Family financial therapy

Disagreement over finances is a common source of conflict within families, especially if they’re experiencing financial distress. The main idea behind this relatively new counseling service is to help families develop healthy attitudes and approaches to money and to help them ease any conflict or stress they might be experiencing related to their financial habits or situation. While a financial counselor isn’t the same as a financial advisor and can’t give you legally qualified financial advice, this type of assistance can help families start sorting out relational issues related to money.

What to keep in mind when pursuing family therapy

Once the decision has been made to seek family counseling services, it’s helpful to be aware of some challenges that can arise during the therapeutic process. There are also things that individuals and families can do to help make their experience with counseling more effective in the long run.
Therapy may open old wounds
The first challenge is that family counseling services may open old wounds that may never have properly healed. The counselor may help the family become aware that the process could initially cause more hurt or potential arguments, but that it’s a necessary part of addressing these deep-seated issues so they have the potential to be resolved once and for all.
There’s potential for a “honeymoon phase”
In contrast to the previous point, the family could also experience a “honeymoon phase.” It refers to a stage when they begin using communication techniques and strategies they learned in counseling and things start getting better. However, unhealthy habits can be hard to break, so continuing to practice what you have learned and continuing to see your counselor even after behavioral health has started to improve can be an important step in maintaining progress.
Consistency is key
Sticking with counseling even through the “honeymoon phase” or other early stages will give you and your family better chances of long-term success. Throughout the process, encouraging everyone in the family to consistently attend appointments and keep practicing the strategies learned there can help foster continued improvement over time.
It's not about placing blame
The idea behind this type of counseling in general is to address and adjust any dysfunctional ways the family may have of relating to each other. So although it’s generally not the role of a counselor to make rulings about past conflicts, place blame, or decide what choice the family should make about something going forward, they can help others learn to communicate and resolve conflict together in a calmer, more compassionate manner.

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Finding the right therapist for your mental health

There are many different options available for those who want to seek family counseling. Some counselors keep evening and weekend hours. Some even make home visits, while others might work with clients online—perhaps even being available outside of typical office hours through email or messaging. 
Online appointments with a qualified, licensed counselor through a virtual therapy service like BetterHelp may be a convenient way for those who prefer this format to receive the guidance they may need. It can be easier to fit into a busy schedule since no travel time is required, and it’s often more cost-effective than traditional in-person sessions with varying pay options to accommodate different budgets. Research suggests that online family counseling can be an effective and viable alternative to in-office visits.

Takeaway

Most families experience conflict from time to time. When it goes unresolved, it creates dysfunction and may contribute to mental health issues; however, the guidance of a family counseling service may be beneficial. There are many different types and formats of family therapy available, including phone sessions, so that you can seek the best one for you and yours. Don't hesitate to reach out and talk to a professional about your concerns and explore the options they offer.

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