When some people think of dementia, they may think of Alzheimer’s disease. While Alzheimer’s is the most common form of dementia, it is not the only type. The term dementia refers not to a single disease but to a set of symptoms that can have various causes.
Other types of dementia include vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia, among rarer variants.
Vascular dementia is often caused by a lack of blood flow to the brain, and Lewy body dementia is related to deposits of the protein alpha-synuclein in the brain. Frontotemporal dementia is typically caused by the loss of nerve cells in the frontal and temporal lobes of the brain.
While some symptoms of dementia may vary depending on a person’s dementia type, there are often standard symptoms in those living with dementia. Symptoms can vary at different stages, but the following are some of the symptoms that individuals living with dementia may experience:
Some people with dementia become frightened or annoyed when they hear loud noises or when there is too much noise in their environment. Other causes of violence may also occur, and each individual is different. When facing aggressive behaviors, it may be helpful for loved ones to look at the underlying cause and consider seeking support.
When a loved one is the target of a violent outburst from someone with dementia, they may have conflicting emotions. They may have empathy and understand that their loved one is not acting aggressively on purpose. However, they may also experience frustration when exposed to aggressive behavior while trying to help.
In these situations, individuals may first think about safety. If you don’t consider your safety, you could become injured, which could, in turn, affect your ability to care for your loved one. If the person becomes violent, you might try to put some physical distance between you and them. If you are not in danger, consider finding a way to ensure that your loved one cannot harm themselves. You might consider calling for assistance to ensure both of your safety.
A violent dementia patient may be confused, making reasoning with them difficult. If they become confrontational but are not in danger, it may help to leave the room temporarily and stay outside the door to ensure their safety. If you enter again a few minutes later, they may be ready to engage more calmly. Do not leave them with items they could use to hurt themselves.
Below are a few strategies that may help individuals avoid or de-escalate confrontation with a person with dementia:
Regarding the last point, it may help to gently go along with what the person with dementia tells you. For example, if they tell you they hate a meal they just requested, reminding them of their request may lead to further confrontation. Instead, you might say that you forgot. Doing so doesn’t mean that you have to accept a loved one’s behavior when they are abusive, but understanding minor comments may help you avoid confrontation.
If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.
In addition to the above strategies for confrontation, it may help you prevent such moments to promote a calm environment.
Despite your efforts to create a calm, pleasant environment, a person with dementia may experience moments of frustration and become aggressive. At times, this response may be due to an unmet need. For example, they may have physical discomfort from a need to use the bathroom, or they may have wet or soiled their undergarments (possibly in the later stages of dementia). At other times, their needs might not be so obvious. For example, they may feel frustrated that they cannot carry out everyday activities or believe they have been left out of a decision-making process.
During moments of tension, consider what the individual needs at the exact moment and try to meet that need as much as possible. If they are still upset, consider taking a few moments yourself. For some caregivers, a few moments of deep breathing or mindfulness exercises may serve as effective self-care measures that protect their own mental health and well-being.
The loved ones of someone with dementia often experience unique emotional challenges. Their lives can seem to be uprooted by caring for someone who can’t live independently, especially in the later stages of dementia. Family members may find it helpful to speak with a counselor about the challenges involved with caregiving.
Individuals who don’t have time for in-person therapy due to caregiving responsibilities may benefit from online therapy through a platform like BetterHelp. With online therapy, caregivers can connect with a therapist from anywhere via phone, video, or live chat. With some online therapy platforms, they can also contact their therapist via in-app messaging, and their therapist can respond as soon as possible. This feature may be helpful after experiencing a violent outburst from a loved one with dementia in between sessions.
Numerous peer-reviewed studies have demonstrated the effectiveness of online therapy. One study published in 2017 found that online cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) was effective in managing a number of disorders, including depression, which may be common among caregivers of people living with dementia. A therapist may also be able to help caregivers navigate complex decisions, such as exploring memory care communities for their loved one.
Learning how to manage aggression can be emotionally draining for family members, who may feel frustrated as they try to help their loved ones. To handle these challenging emotions, it may help to speak with a licensed therapist. If your caregiving responsibilities make leaving your loved one alone challenging, you might also consider online therapy.
Do not argue with people with dementia and always listen to their concerns. Be patient and try not to be upset. When you do, practice deep breathing exercises and count from 1 to 10 to relax yourself. Always ensure their safety and tell them that you are there to assist and help them.
To keep people with dementia in good health, they must eat healthy foods such as fruits and vegetables, engage in daily exercise, and follow a regular sleep schedule.
Dementia can sometimes cause people to become aggressive for no apparent reason. When this happens, it could be important to stay calm and try to de-escalate the situation. You may be able to distract the individual with calming activities or favorite objects. Practice active listening and maintain a calm tone to avoid making the situation worse.
The most aggressive form of dementia may be Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, or CJD.
Caregivers and healthcare providers in dementia care may be able to calm a patient at night by dimming the lights, playing soothing music, or reading aloud to them. This can reduce agitation and help the person get a good night’s sleep.
To manage aggressive behavior, it may be best to find a facility or care home that specializes in dementia care such as a memory care facility. It could also be helpful to ensure the facility trains each healthcare professional to properly address challenging behaviors such as a patient’s aggression. You might also inquire as to whether the facility employs techniques to prevent aggression such as music therapy or light therapy.
As dementia progresses, there could be several different warning signs indicating a worsening of dementia, including:
Perhaps the best technique for reducing aggression in dementia patients is to create a predictable and safe environment for them. Sometimes, people with dementia get scared or agitated and act out aggressively as a result of feeling overwhelmed. Removing any environmental triggers such as bright lights or loud noises could be a good first step. You could also provide emotional support and reassurance to help the person feel safe.
If aggressive incidents become more frequent or severe, it may be necessary to seek a medical evaluation. Pain management may be required in some cases. A doctor may also prescribe antipsychotic medications as a last resort.
In the case of an aggressive response or behaviors from a patient, it could be best to employ de-escalation techniques. To de-escalate situations like this, give the patient space and try using calm, non-threatening body language, friendly facial expressions, eye contact, and communication skills like active listening. You may be able to divert the person’s attention to a calming activity or other familiar coping strategies. Meanwhile, reach out for assistance from others in case there’s further agitation or your efforts to de-escalate make things worse.
Caring for a patient with violent behavior can take an emotional toll. Be sure to take care of yourself too. Support groups are available for caregivers of dementia patients.
Dementia patients may begin to exhibit aggression during the middle or late stages of the disease. Aggression can be triggered by environmental influences or sudden changes in routine, such as a hospitalization or change of caregivers.