“I Feel Like Crying”: Taking Care Of Your Mental Health When You’re Feeling Depressed
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Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses worldwide. It can have significant impacts on a person’s daily life, functioning, and overall well-being. That’s why being able to recognize the signs and symptoms of this disorder can be helpful, so you can seek the appropriate support for the diagnosis or treatment of this serious but treatable illness. Crying spells are just one of the many potential symptoms of depression. Read on to learn more about this disorder and tips for addressing symptoms on the road to healing.
What is depression? Definition and types
Depression, also known as dysthymia, can affect how you feel, behave, and think. It’s a mood disorder with symptoms that can range from mild to severe, potentially seriously impacting daily functioning and putting overall health at risk. Depression can take a variety of forms depending on who it affects and when.
Types of depression
Some of these mental health conditions include:
- Major depressive disorder
- Persistent depressive disorder
- Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD)
- Seasonal affective disorder
- Postpartum or peripartum depression
- Bipolar disorder*
*Note that bipolar disorder is not a type of depression, but it may include depressive episodes as a key symptom.
When you say “I feel like crying”: Recognizing the signs of depression
The experience of sadness or crying spells alone does not necessarily indicate the presence of mental health conditions like depression. In order to be diagnosed with an illness like major depressive disorder, the most current edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) says that an individual must be experiencing five or more symptoms for a period of two weeks or more.
Saying “I feel like crying” and other symptoms of depression
- Depressed mood
- Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
- Fatigue
- Restlessness or slowness
- Significant changes in appetite or eating patterns
- Significant changes in sleeping patterns
- Sense of worthlessness or excessive guilt
- Difficulty concentrating
- Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
Crying spells and depression
If you cry or feel sadness or similar emotions from time to time, it doesn’t necessarily indicate the presence of a disorder like depression. Sadness is a normal human emotion and crying is a natural response to it. However, if accompanied by other symptoms, crying spells could be a sign of depression.
Diagnosis or treatment from a mental health professional
The answer to the question, "Is it healthy to cry?" is technically yes, as emotional tears contain hormones that may help reduce pain and contribute to calm feelings. Plus, repressing emotions can lead to health problems over the short- and long-term, so releasing them in this way can be positive. That said, being unable to stop yourself from crying or crying so often that it causes distress or trouble functioning is not considered a healthy behavior. In a case like this, it’s usually best to connect with a mental health professional who can provide gentle, compassionate care for the symptom(s) you may be experiencing.
Diagnosis or treatment: Tips for depression recovery
If you’re experiencing symptoms of depression, it’s usually important that you meet with a doctor, psychiatrist, or therapist as soon as possible for medical advice and a diagnosis, if applicable. The most common treatment for depression is some form of therapy, sometimes in combination with medication and/or certain lifestyle changes. In addition to receiving treatment from a licensed professional, the following tips may help you learn to cope with certain symptoms of depression, such as crying spells or trouble functioning.
Understand the disorder
Understanding more about depression could be a positive first step toward managing this type of illness. For example, you might familiarize yourself with the key symptoms and how they may manifest in different people, habits that could help with treatment, such as meditation, and events or situations that tend to worsen your symptoms, such as stress or a lack of sleep. The more knowledge you have, the more engaged you may be able to be in your own treatment.
Practice self-care to avoid depression and/or other mental health conditions such as anxiety
Self-care is generally thought to be a core pillar of overall health and wellness, and focusing on this area may be especially helpful to those who are experiencing symptoms of depression or another mental illness. Self-care practices that could help promote improved mental health, particularly in those with depression, can include:
- Getting enough sleep
- Eating nutritious foods
- Exercising regularly
- Engaging in a meditation practice
- Building a strong social support network
Develop healthy coping strategies for what you’re feeling
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a coping strategy is “an action, a series of actions, or a thought process used in meeting a stressful or unpleasant situation or in modifying one’s reaction to such a situation.” You may be better equipped to manage symptoms of depression if you can find healthy coping strategies that work for you.
An example of an unhealthy coping mechanism for a mental illness like depression would be substance misuse such as drinking heavily, which will generally not help with the problem at hand and may cause additional ill effects and risks. Examples of healthy coping mechanisms could include challenging negative thoughts, reaching out to social support instead of self-isolating, and sticking to a self-care routine as best you can.
Build a support network
Research suggests that having a high level of social support—that is, family, friends, neighbors, and others who you can lean on during difficult times—may correlate with better sleep quality and a decreased risk of depression. That means cultivating a strong social support network may help you in the process of managing an illness like depression. Friends and family can act as a listening ear, a source of advice, a source of encouragement, or even just quiet company when you’re going through a difficult period.
Seeking help from a mental health professional to help with depression and anxiety
Again, it’s recommended that you reach out for support and mental health or medical advice if you’re experiencing symptoms of depression or another mental health condition such as anxiety. Meeting with a therapist is one way to seek advice and diagnosis, if applicable. They can help you address your symptoms, recommend treatment, and learn healthy coping mechanisms to help support yourself along the way.
If you find attending in-person therapy sessions to be intimidating or inconvenient, you might consider online therapy as an alternative. With an online therapy platform like BetterHelp, you can get matched with a licensed therapist who you can meet with via phone, video call, or in-app messaging to address the challenges you may be facing. Medically reviewed research suggests that online therapy can represent a viable treatment option for those experiencing depression, so this format may be worth exploring if it works better for you.
Takeaway
How can I manage my depression?
Depression may be managed by developing healthy coping skills, staying active, practicing self-care and mindfulness, and engaging in therapy with a licensed professional. If you’re experiencing symptoms of depression, it’s recommended that you meet with a healthcare professional for advice.
Is it possible to recover from depression?
Recovery from depression is possible. With the support of family or friends, professional help, and the right strategies, individuals may be able to successfully manage depression symptoms and improve their overall mental wellness.
What does it mean when you are feeling down and have crying spells?
If you're having unusual crying spells without explanation, it could mean that you're experiencing a medical or mental health issue. Pseudobulbar affect is a medical diagnosis that refers to being unable to stop yourself from crying. Talk to your doctor to find out if your crying spells are related to a health condition like depression, anxiety, or pseudobulbar affect.
What are the side effects of crying?
Some of the effects of long crying spells are a stuffy nose, mucus buildup, headaches, and sinus irritation. In some cases, excessive crying can be accompanied by a sense of impending doom or withdrawal from social interaction. Talk to your doctor if you can't stop crying or are experiencing negative side effects.
Why do some people cry easily?
Crying differences are unique to each person. In other words, no two people cry in the same way or for the same reasons. Most people experience tears as a natural emotional response, but some may have spontaneous bouts of crying or episodes of crying unexpectedly. People may cry in response to lower or higher levels of emotional, physical, or mental stimuli than others. Hormonal imbalances, the menstrual cycle, or conditions related to the neurological system may all be possible reasons.
How do you stop yourself from crying?
The best way to stop crying is usually to get to the bottom of what's causing you to cry in the first place. Is it due to a sad situation, stress, or a mental health condition, for example? If you're unsure why you can't stop crying, talk to your doctor or therapist. Self-care and self-compassion may also help you soothe yourself.
What is a nervous breakdown?
A "nervous breakdown" was once a term used to refer to “when stress temporarily prevents a person from feeling that they can function day to day,” though note that the medical community no longer uses this term. Common reasons people might use this phrase include chronic stress, burnout, or emotional overwhelm that makes them feel sad or unable to cope with the tragic situation. It's important to realize that these experiences may also be connected to underlying health conditions, including mental health challenges or even serious medical conditions like heart disease or high blood pressure, and should be taken seriously.
Is it OK to cry every day?
It's OK to have a good cry now and again, but crying or feeling like crying all the time is generally not healthy. Unless you're under tremendous stress, grieving, or suffering from a medical disorder, you should generally not be experiencing extended crying spells every day. However, if you're crying as a form of therapy or release during the course of mental health, medical health, or other forms of therapy, the benefits of crying may be helpful. If you're concerned about crying too much, see a doctor or therapist.
Can crying make you lose weight?
Crying is not an effective form of weight loss. If you’re concerned about your physical health, you may seek the support of a doctor or nutritionist.
Is crying good for the eyes?
If you have painful or irritating debris (like a grain of sand) in your eye, your body's natural reaction is to produce tears to remove the debris and also cleanse the eye.
Do girls or boys cry more often?
According to research, there isn't a significant difference in the amount that people of different sexes or genders may cry. The small difference in some women reporting that they cry more than some men can be due to a higher production of hormones in the female body that promote crying, while testosterone may inhibit the crying response. Social norms may also inhibit men from believing it’s OK to cry when they need to.
How can I stop being so sensitive?
People don't necessarily have crying spells due to being overly sensitive. If you believe that you're more sensitive than the people around you, you could meet with a therapist to figure out why or to learn to appreciate the positives of this quality.
Why do I cry after making love?
Sex can cause people to experience a range of emotions that they may have been unaware of until after the fact. Crying after sex is the body's way of releasing additional energy. For some, this emotional release may be influenced by premenstrual syndrome, while for others, it may simply be part of a nonlinear process of emotional expression and connection.
Is crying at work unprofessional?
If you sense that you need to cry at work, it may help you to take a few minutes to yourself in the bathroom or outside to release the emotion and soothe yourself. Unexpected crying at work may sometimes be triggered by stress or personal issues, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. If it happens often, it may be worth understanding the root cause of your emotions or any underlying worry that might be affecting you.
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