Managing Depression: Can I Do It On My Own?

Medically reviewed by Laura Angers Maddox, NCC, LPC
Updated October 9, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team
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When living with depression, talking to others about your experience can be difficult. You may be tempted to manage your depression independently if you feel there’s no one you can lean on or struggle with internal or external mental health stigmas

While making lifestyle changes and taking steps to address your depression on your own can be beneficial, many people find that depression symptoms persist without professional intervention. Understanding your options for managing symptoms in more detail may help you decide how to proceed with your mental health.

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What are the symptoms of depression?

Several factors may be considered when distinguishing between sadness and a diagnosis of clinical depression. Therefore, receiving a clinical assessment from a licensed clinician can be beneficial. The criteria for a diagnosis of depression are listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). 

The criteria in the DSM-5 state that someone must have five or more of the following symptoms during the same two-week period, and at least one of them should fall into the categories of depressed mood or loss of interest: 

  • A depressed mood for the greater part of the day on most days for over two weeks

  • Less interest or pleasure in most activities most of the day

  • Significant weight gain or weight loss that can’t be explained

  • Sluggish thoughts or movements, as noticed by others

  • Feeling fatigued and having less energy nearly every day

  • Feelings of worthlessness and guilt almost every day

  • A decreased ability to think and make decisions

  • Recurrent thoughts about death or suicide 

A licensed mental health provider is qualified to assess whether these symptoms cause a person significant distress or impairment at school, work, or other functioning areas. The criteria also state that symptoms should not result from substance use disorder or another medical or mental health condition (e.g., dementia, bipolar disorder). If you believe you’re living with depression, a healthcare professional can provide you with medical advice and determine whether testing, a diagnosis, and treatment are necessary. 

Can I manage depression on my own?

You may feel tempted to try to work through depressive symptoms on your own. In some cases, self-care may relieve these symptoms. However, there are also many benefits to working with a qualified therapist. A therapist can use research-backed support methods to guide you toward a treatment plan unique to your needs. Additionally, they can let you know whether your symptoms meet the clinical criteria for mental illness if you haven’t yet received a diagnosis. 

For many, receiving a diagnosis from a professional may provide certainty about their depression. Depression can be a complex mental health concern that manifests in varying ways. As there are several types of depression, a diagnosis may guide you toward treatments most effective for your type of depression. On your own, you may be treating your symptoms without having all the information to make an informed decision. 

Note that therapy sessions won’t necessarily last forever. You and your therapist can decide when you’ve successfully reached your treatment goals. After a specific time, you may be able to determine whether you can take what you’ve learned in therapy and manage your symptoms on your own. If your symptoms reappear or worsen, you can also choose to restart your sessions.

Depression is a common mental health disorder that is highly treatable. The psychological community has assigned criteria to help diagnose this severe mood disorder. If your symptoms seem out of your control, talking to a licensed mental health provider or doctor can be an effective way to get an accurate diagnosis or begin drafting a plan for treatment, including skills you can practice at home. 

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What to do when you don't want to seek help

Often, people feel afraid or hesitant to get professional help, even when they know they might benefit from support. Fear of the unknown prevents many people from seeking support, so you might use a few strategies to reduce these fears, including the following.

Remember, you’re not alone 

When confronting your fears about treatment, note that you aren’t alone. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), about one in five people have a mental illness. About 16 million adults in America live with major depression, and over 41.7 million US adults see a therapist, with the number growing each year. 

Think of mental health in a new light

You may initially feel nervous when you schedule an appointment with a licensed mental health provider. For some people, the act of making the appointment means having to admit to themselves that they need help. It can be intimidating to think that you might be diagnosed with a mental illness when you don’t know much about the condition or its treatment options. However, many mental health conditions can be managed and treated. 

It may help to think about mental health in the same way that you think about physical health. Each person can take action to improve their physical health, and you can also take action to improve your mental health. Like you might go to the doctor for a sore throat, or you can go to a therapist for a mental health symptom. Clinical professionals, like medical doctors, are highly trained in their professions and have years of experience. They’re experts in their field and can help you develop a unique treatment plan. Many therapists can also work with you around fears about therapy, so consider asking questions if you feel uncertain. 

Consider the various options for treatment

In addition, you might benefit from considering that there are many options for depression treatment. You don’t necessarily have to see a therapist to start. Many people try medication, alternative therapies, or medical treatments before they seek counseling. However, a combined approach of medication and therapy may be the most recommended for people experiencing major depressive disorder. 

What to expect when working with a therapist

During the first few sessions of therapy, your therapist may focus on discussing their treatment approaches, answering questions, and helping you ease into therapy. They’ll attempt to establish a professional working relationship with you, and you can both begin to build trust. Your therapist may also take a medical and personal history, which could include psychological testing, depending on what you’re in therapy for. For example, you might be asked to fill out questionnaires or rating scales about your symptoms and their intensity. 

If your therapist gives you a diagnosis, they can discuss it with you and help you learn more about it. After you’ve discussed your symptoms, history, and goals for therapy, your therapist may work with you to develop a personalized treatment plan. They can consult you on this plan, asking what you think would help you most. As you go to sessions, you’ll work through the plan, learning and using new skills in sessions. Your therapist might also offer homework like worksheets or skills you can practice. 

When you’ve met your treatment goals, you may be able to end your therapy sessions. Often, your therapist will give you an idea of how long your sessions might take and whether they see improvements. If you both decide you’ve met your goals for therapy, you might stop seeing your therapist and come back at another time if symptoms resurface.  

Independent lifestyle changes for depression

Symptoms of depression can cause you to feel helpless, but there are steps you can take to potentially improve your mood. For many people, adding in physical activity, changing their lifestyle, or improving their way of thinking can positively change their life, even if depression symptoms do not disappear entirely.  

Below are several activities you might consider when trying to maintain your mental health and overall well-being: 

  • Establish a daily routine and stick with it.

  • Set goals for yourself daily, even if they’re “minor” initially. 

  • Build time into your schedule for physical activity.

  • Eat a healthy, well-balanced diet.

  • Go to sleep and get up at the same time every day.

  • Consider volunteering to give you a purpose and help you feel accomplished.

  • Try to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

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Counseling options 

Although depression can be challenging to manage independently, there are lifestyle changes you can make that can be used in tandem with traditional therapy to help you manage your symptoms. 

Many people find online therapy convenient and easy to use and feel more comfortable receiving mental health support from their homes. You can connect with a counselor through an online platform like BetterHelp to receive care from home, including when you struggle to get out of bed. If you’re hesitant about therapy, you can also start with chat sessions before moving up to phone or video sessions with your therapist to get a feel for what therapy might look like online.  

Online therapy can be an effective method for managing mental health conditions like depression. One study assessed the effectiveness of an online counseling platform in helping clients address symptoms of depression. Researchers found that depression symptom severity was significantly reduced after the intervention. Further, those who had never participated in therapy before had more pronounced results. 

Takeaway

Many people may be able to manage depression independently to an extent, depending on its type and severity. Lifestyle changes, new routines, and healthy coping mechanisms may all be practical choices in doing so.

However, more severe cases of depression may require intervention from a professional, particularly if it is long-lasting or causes severe dysfunction. If you’re worried about seeing a therapist, alternative methods like online counseling may also be effective. Consider contacting a therapist to get started and receive personalized advice for coping with depression.

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