Mental Health Tips For New Parents: Balancing A Baby And Self-Care

The days, weeks, and months after a new baby arrives can be an exciting and challenging time for new parents. For both biological and adoptive parents, the addition of a baby to the household may mean making several changes to your daily lifestyle and experiencing conflicting emotions. As a new parent, practicing self-care and managing your well-being can replenish your physical and mental resources and may allow you to be a more effective parent. 

There can be many ways to practice self-care. Some can be done on your own, and some may require professional support and guidance. By developing strategies that promote flexible thinking and self-compassion, you can find a balance between doing what is best for your growing family and taking care of yourself. If in-person therapy sessions aren’t feasible as you adjust to this new stage of life, consider connecting with a therapist online for more convenient support.   

Balancing a newborn’s needs with self-care can be challenging

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What is self-care, and why is it important?

For some, “self-care” may sound like a trendy buzzword. However, self-care practices can reduce stress and anxiety and improve your overall well-being. Self-care may look different for different people, but broadly speaking, it refers to a collection of actions a person takes to care for themselves holistically. Some common self-care practices include mindfulness, exercise, nutritious eating habits, and relaxation activities. 

New parents may view self-care as a type of selfish behavior. However, practicing self-care strategies can improve both mental and physical health while reducing illness and shortening its duration. This means that, although self-care may focus on the parent, it usually enables them to take better care of their child.       

Common mental health challenges for new parents

As a new parent, you may experience a wide variety of mental health challenges. These conditions may arise within days or weeks of childbirth and can impact a parent’s daily life. Some common mental health challenges for new parents include the following: 

Postpartum depression (PPD)

Serious depression symptoms that extend after childbirth may indicate postpartum depression. Individuals with PPD may experience depression symptoms, such as a low mood, loss of interest or pleasure, and loss of appetite. These symptoms may impact daily life and last beyond the “baby blues” that can be common in the first few weeks after childbirth. 

Insomnia and sleep deprivation

New parents tend to have an increased risk of insomnia or sleep deprivation. A newborn baby may wake frequently throughout the night for a variety of reasons, which may make it challenging to get enough sleep. Added stress and anxiety may also make it hard to fall back to sleep after waking to feed the baby or change their diaper. 

Mood swings

Parenting can be filled with highs and lows. A new parent may experience wide mood swings that include moments of happiness or elation followed by moments of sadness. 

Anxiety and stress

The sudden responsibility of being a parent can be a source of stress and anxiety. There may be anxiety about what other parents think, and new parents may worry about whether they are providing their baby with everything they need.  

Mental health tips for new parents

By practicing self-care, seeking support from a family member or friend, and enlisting help from a mental health professional, you may be able to reduce the impact of these challenges. 

Practical self-care tips for new parents

Self-care can be an essential part of maintaining mental and physical health for new parents. By implementing a variety of strategies, you can find a few that work for you and smooth the transition to parenthood. Below are several practical self-care tips to improve mental health and overall happiness as new parents: 

Establish a support system

As the saying goes, it often takes a village to raise a child. With this in mind, it may be beneficial to seek support and help from family and friends. This could mean asking for some help around the house or having a trusted loved one babysit while you get a few hours of sleep. You may also seek support or advice from other parents who have experience raising children. 

Finding professional support, such as working with a therapist or postpartum doula, may be a way to build your support network. You may also find social support by joining a new parent support group. These groups can be a validating way for new parents to both give and receive advice while bonding over the shared experience of raising a newborn baby. 

Prioritize sleep

Although it can be challenging to get enough sleep with a newborn baby waking you up throughout the night, sleep can be an important part of self-care and good mental health. One way to get more sleep may be to sleep when the baby sleeps, which generally means taking naps during the day. It may be tempting to use the time while the baby is sleeping to catch up on work or chores around the house, but this often makes it hard to catch up on lost sleep. 

During the night, it can be helpful to coordinate with a partner (if possible) to get a better night’s rest. Parents may share responsibilities like changing diapers, feeding, and soothing the baby throughout the night. It also may be helpful to practice good sleep hygiene for the moments when you are able to sleep. This generally means avoiding caffeine late in the day, avoiding screens before bed, and sleeping in a cool, dark, comfortable space. 

Eat nutrient-rich foods and get exercise

Prioritizing nutritious eating habits that include fruits, vegetables, lean protein, and whole grains may help new parents maintain the energy they need to keep up with a newborn. As a new parent, it may be tempting to order fast food or pick up convenience foods, which may increase fatigue. Although it can be challenging, preparing home-cooked, balanced meals may be done by prepping ahead of time and asking family members and friends for help. 

It can also be important for new parents to get regular exercise. Gentle forms of movement, like walking, yoga, and stretching, can get the body moving and improve mood. In the beginning, it may be beneficial for the focus to be on consistency rather than intensity, especially for individuals who are healing from childbirth.

Engage in mental health practices

Practicing mindfulness techniques or engaging in self-reflection can be helpful ways to take care of yourself. Meditation, journaling, or a reflective walk can calm the mind and promote relaxation. These practices can also put an individual’s stress and anxiety into perspective as the new parent takes a step away from their role as a parent and focuses on themselves. 

These practices can be done individually or with a small group and may or may not involve a mental health professional. As with exercise, consistency may be key to experiencing the maximum benefits of mindfulness practices. Engaging in 15 to 20 minutes of mindfulness can be a way to set your mood and intentions for the day. 

Maintain social connections

Being a new parent does not necessarily mean that you need to cut off your social life. Maintaining social connections can be an important part of self-care, and socializing is typically linked to improved mental health and well-being for all people, not just new parents. Maintaining social relationships can be an important form of support for new parents, as they can share their thoughts and emotions with friends and loved ones, reducing feelings of isolation. 

Manage expectations and be kind to yourself

New parents may experience pressure to be the “perfect” parent, even though all parents tend to make mistakes. It can be beneficial for a new parent to understand that they cannot control everything when it comes to raising a child. Managing these expectations and being kind to yourself can help you maintain a more balanced, healthy perspective.

Aid for postpartum depression and other mental health concerns

Working with a therapist can be a beneficial way to balance self-care and caring for a new baby. A therapist can recognize signs of serious mental health conditions, such as postpartum depression, and provide you with strategies for improving mental health. 

Online therapy

For new parents, making it into a brick-and-mortar office to attend an in-person therapy session may not be realistic or convenient. Online therapy sessions can take place from any location with an internet connection, empowering new parents to get the professional support they deserve from the comfort of their own homes. 

Mental health tips for new parents: Online therapy can help

According to a 2023 study, online therapy can be an effective way to manage the mental health challenges that come with being a new parent. An online therapist may work with new parents to develop systems and structures to improve mental health while building and improving their connection with their child.