Impression Management In Psychology

Medically reviewed by Julie Dodson, MA, LCSW and Nikki Ciletti, M.Ed, LPC
Updated October 22, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Ever wondered how we can maintain relationships, cleverly negotiate with difficult people and present our views well across each social context we encounter? Understanding the concept of ‘impression management’ can give you some interesting answers. 

Developed by legendary sociologist Erving Goffman, this theory is generally considered to be a unique social psychology tool that can influence how we strategize our behavior — potentially allowing us to leave the desired impressions in our interpersonal interactions. Below, we take a detailed look into the science behind this concept, showcasing its potential benefits and harmful effects on all aspects of our everyday life and relationships.

Impression management

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In an article published in Psychological Bulletin titled Impression Management: A Literature Review and Two-component Model, it is described as “the process by which people control the impressions others form of them.” The article breaks this down into two parts: impression motivation, or the reason you want to control the impression, and impression construction, the way by which you control the impression. 

Erving Goffman explained the theory by comparing real-life situations to an actor putting on a play in a theater, where both the performer (you) and the audience (those around you) cooperate to act out a scene (whatever situation you are in.) Whether it's in job interviews, presentations, or social gatherings, mastering the science of this management can help you to leave a positive and memorable impression. 

The power of self-presentation can be an essential tool when it comes to this topic, according to Erving Goffman. How a person dresses, speaks, and acts can significantly impact whether that person gains positive social value, as well as the overall way they are perceived by the people around them. Knowing how to use strategic self-presentation to create the desired impression can help you to be seen in the best light possible in both everyday life and unique situations.

A successful impression management strategy may require careful planning and execution. You might take the time to think carefully about the behavior and image you want to project, preparing to execute it properly in any given situation or interpersonal communication. 

We’ve summarized a few other strategies to help you get the most out of social interactions below. 

Understanding the psychology of impression management 

An understanding of the topic of impression management can be difficult to acquire, and some researchers even disagree on certain aspects surrounding this practice. In the book, Impression Management Theory and Social Psychological Research, the authors don’t agree on every assumption or interpretation pertaining to this theory. In spite of this, there are ways to understand this topic and how it can be used in your own life. 

It requires, in some cases, impression management techniques like self-promotion and self-defense as people strive to influence the opinions of those around them. This could include trying to appear more attractive or successful than they are, or it could mean using specific verbal and nonverbal acts to downplay certain aspects of their personality or behavior. All of these techniques may involve an attempt to control how people perceive various aspects of social interaction.

They may also use impression management when talking about themselves on social media or in conversations with friends, family and colleagues to increase their social influence. In fact, impression management can be a huge part of posting information and photos on social media.

While this is not considered by many to be inherently “good” or “bad,” it can be helpful to evaluate motive and ensure that one remains as true to oneself as possible throughout this process. 

Impression management and strategies to control and manage impressions

There are several different tactics and strategies available, the appropriateness of which may vary depending on the situation and the individual's goals. For example, someone might want to appear more intelligent by using big words or complicated, field-related language when discussing a subject about which they know little. Conversely, another person who wants to get into a leadership position might try to deflect attention away from their mistakes by pointing out errors made by someone else. 

People can also use prosocial strategies such as expressing empathy or offering compliments to improve their reputation with others.

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Impression management and society 

While it can be used in a positive context, it can also be used to perpetuate inequality in society. For example, when people attempt to create a false impression of themselves and others using words, images and other visual cues, this may dampen or limit other people’s experiences. 

Additionally, negative impression management can cause a wide range of results and effects, which may include: 

Impression management and undue pressure on individuals using the technique

Recent social psychology studies show that it can also put undue pressure on individuals to conform to a certain standard of human behavior. This pressure can be damaging to some young people, who are more likely to succumb to the pressure to do so.

It can also lead to unrealistic expectations and feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, which can have long-term consequences on an individual’s mental health. It's also possible to experience cognitive dissonance while engaging in this topic, which is described by the American Psychological Association as an “unpleasant psychological state wrestling from inconsistency between two or more elements in a cognitive system.” Therapy and peer-to-peer support can be helpful resources to overcome this and other effects of misuse of it.

Impression management and misrepresentation of reality

This concept can lead to the misrepresentation of reality. This can be damaging when used to manipulate public opinion or for political purposes, potentially leading to false beliefs and misunderstandings about specific issues. 

We do want to note, however, that many organizations, both in and out of government departments have been formed to encourage transparency and accountability. 

Impression management and the inability to connect authentically

As people become increasingly invested in managing their reputation, it can make forming meaningful relationships more challenging as the true connection might be sacrificed for surface-level social interactions between parties. 

To combat this, many may choose to be vulnerable and let all sides of their personality show — offering the person you’re with the benefit of knowing who you truly are in every form. This can give you a foundation of trust to reference later on in your relationship. 

Impression management and social stratification

Creating an atmosphere where one's desired image or public persona has more positive social value than their actual character traits might reinforce a societal hierarchy that can be based on wealth & status. Additionally, the idea that one must present a specific outward appearance might lead individuals into debt or dangerous activities. 

To combat this, many may choose to sit down and determine their actual positive traits and main priorities — allowing their true self and overarching, long-term goals to influence their current experience and decision-making skills.

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Impression management and the benefits of online therapy 

It can be difficult to truly engage in in-person therapy if you’re experiencing impression management concerns. It may be uncomfortable “dropping” the mask or remaining vulnerable with the pressure of someone sitting just across the room. With online therapy, however, you can receive help from therapists and counselors specializing in this concept without traveling or missing time from work, school or family. 

You can take advantage of the therapeutic benefits without disrupting your day-to-day activities, in most cases. 

Online therapy can also help improve problem-solving skills, whether that be problems you encounter in your personal life or your professional life. Therapy can help individuals better manage their impressions and deal with the issues that ordinary work situations present by allowing them to think through different courses of action before they act. 

Therapists can provide helpful tools and techniques that clients can use when faced with challenging scenarios related to this topic. For example, they may suggest ways for clients to effectively communicate their needs without feeling overwhelmed or intimidated by other people’s reactions or opinions. Plus, with online therapy, individuals can connect with therapists from different locations. Those who live in Illinois, for example, can match with therapists from New York and other locations.

Online therapy can provide a safe space for individuals seeking help to manage their impressions in social settings. Discussing any issues related to self-image, confidence, communication skills or self-esteem can be done so in an environment free from judgment — which may be invaluable in helping individuals learn more about themselves and develop better coping mechanisms for difficult situations.

Impression management and online therapy effectiveness

Online therapy has been statistically suggested to positively impact mental health and reduce symptoms of anxiety disorders, improve mood, and increase self-esteem.

Online therapy can also provide a safe space for individuals to practice these techniques and learn to express themselves without fear of judgment or criticism from others. This can be especially beneficial for those who struggle with shyness or social anxiety disorders as they navigate different social situations.

Takeaway

Impression management can be used responsibly or irresponsibly. When used with caution and mindfulness, understanding and leveraging the concept can result in more fulfilling social interactions and relationships. However, ill-used strategies can lead to significant psychological distress. It can be important to be aware of how you’re using this tool to navigate your relationships as healthily as possible. Online therapy can be a helpful resource to you as you do this. BetterHelp can connect you with a therapist in your specific area of need. 
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