Everyday Tips For Self-Love To Improve Mental Health

Medically reviewed by Nikki Ciletti, M.Ed, LPC
Updated October 21, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Some confuse the concept of self-love with self-absorption or selfishness, but the two are very different things. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines self-love as “regard for and interest in one’s own being or contentment.”  Self-love is typically characterized by a healthy, balanced regard, appreciation, and respect for oneself. in which an individual understands their strengths and opportunities for growth equally. 

People with a healthy sense of self-love tend to practice self-compassion when they make mistakes and are happy with themselves when things are going well. Self-love doesn’t mean putting others down to make oneself appear more capable or talented, it means feeling secure enough in one’s own abilities to celebrate their successes and others’ successes.

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Benefits of practicing tips for self-love

In this article, we’ll provide tips on how to nurture self-love every day and explore some signs that you might need more of it. First But first, it may be helpful to understand the ways that self-love can be important for your well-being:

  • Greater motivation.— Self-love may give you the motivation to pursue your goals, explore new opportunities, and continuously strive for improvement.
  • Better mental and physical well-being.— A large body of research suggests that when we are more confident in ourselves and our abilities, this confidence can reduce anxiety and relieve depression symptoms. ResearchScience also indicates there is a connection between self-love and physical health. Practices such as self-care, exercise, and a balanced lifestyle are often associated with self-love and contribute to overall well-being.
  • Greater resilience.— People with healthy self-love are often better equipped to handle setbacks and failures, as they understand their worth is irrespective doesn’t depend on external circumstances.
  • Healthier relationships.— Loving yourself often sets the foundation for healthy relationships with others. It can enable you to establish boundaries and, communicate effectively, in addition to setting the standard for the kind of treatment you expect and deserve.

Tips for practicing self-love every day

It is possible to learn to love yourself more. BelowHere are some ways to practice self-love every day:

Practice self-compassion

You might start by treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend facing challenges. This process may involve embracing imperfections, learning from mistakes, and avoiding harsh self-judgment. 

Prioritize self-care

Prioritizing self-care may seem like a tall challenge with the often fast-paced lifestyles that many people lead,— but taking care of your physical and mental well-being is crucial and can be an important part of self-love. You might tTry to establish a routine that includes spending time on regular exercise, getting sufficient sleep, and eating healthily. Even if you’re limited on time, it may help to schedule activities that bring you joy, whether it's reading, painting, or simply taking a leisurely walk.

Set boundaries

Respecting your own limits by establishing clear boundaries in your personal and professional lives can be an excellent effective way to practice self-love. When you learn to say “no,” you might protect yourself from overwhelm by learning to say “no,” and fostering a healthy balance between responsibilities and personal needs. 

Celebrate achievements

You may find that your self-love grows when you acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. One productive way to do this is to keep a “success journal” of your achievements. A success journal is excellent and can allow you to express pride in your growth and progress. You can now, but also revisit your successes when you may not be feeling so confident.

Embrace positive affirmations

You might try replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations. If you find you have limiting beliefs about your abilities, know that it is possible to challenge and reframe them. When you cultivate a positive mindset by regularly affirming your strengths and capabilities, it can transform your self-perception.

Surround yourself with positivity

It isn’t always easy to recognize when other people in our lives bring us negativity. This is why it’s important to consider taking some time to evaluate your relationships if there are people who make you feel “lesser than them” or bad about yourself. It may help to let go of toxic relationships that drain your energy. Then, you can surround yourself with people who support and encourage your personal growth and well-being. 

Practice mindfulness and mental health exercises

You can develop a greater awareness of your thoughts and emotions with mindfulness and mental health activities like yoga, meditation, and deep breathing exercises. This type of connectedness can cultivate a sense of inner peace that stays with you throughout your day. 

Learn and grow

Engaging in personal development and continuous learning activities can contribute significantly to a positive self-image and a sense of fulfillment. Whether you choose to learn a new language, seek additional professional certifications or degrees, or try a new sport, you might— try setting goals that challenge you and align with your passions. 

Accept yourself unconditionally

People often find it challenging to accept themselves unconditionally for many reasons, from societal or childhood influences to past experiences in adulthood. However, self-love doesn’t have to be contingent on external validation or societal expectations, so it’s important that you work on embracing your true self without conditions or reservations. Acceptance of your authentic self can be a powerful step towards cultivating genuine self-love.

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Signs you may need more self-love in your life

Messages on the importance of self-love are ubiquitous in popular culture, b. But it isn’t always easy to learn, particularly for people who have been exposed to trauma, problems with relationships, severe rejection, or other circumstances that can impact our confidence and self-worth. 

Behaviors that suggest you could benefit from practicing tips for self-love

BelowHere are a few examples of behaviors that may suggest you may need to cultivate more self-love:

  • Lack of self-kindness and negative self-talk

If you find yourself constantly engaging in self-critical and negative self-talk, it may be a sign that you may need more self-love. You might pay attention to the language you use internally and work on reframing negative thoughts with positive affirmations. If you are harsh and critical towards yourself, you can make a conscious effort to practice self-compassion and nurture a positive self-image.

  • Difficulty accepting compliments

If you deflect compliments or struggle to accept praise (graciously) from others, it might be an indication that you are not fully embracing and internalizing positive feedback. It may help toTry to practice acknowledging and appreciating your strengths when you receive compliments from others. T—then, you can try to remember recall them the next time you feel unconfident or down.

  • Seeking external validation

If you find that your happiness is heavily dependent on others' opinions, consider cultivating a stronger internal sense of validation. While it’s common to seek approval from others sometimes, relying excessively on external validation for your self-worth may be indicative of a lack of self-love. 

  • Difficulty setting boundaries

Learning to say no and setting boundaries that protect your mental and physical health are powerful acts of self-love. If you struggle to say no or find yourself overextending to please others, it may be a sign that you need to prioritize your own needs and set healthy boundaries. 

  • Ignoring self-care

Self-care routines like getting adequate sleep, engaging in regular exercise, and eating a healthy diet canare also be important for both our mental and physical health. Neglecting such self-care routines can be a sign ofred flag for a lack of self-love.

  • Fear of failure or impossible standards 

The constant fear of failure or an unattainable pursuit of perfection can be a sign that you are not allowing yourself room for mistakes and growth. It may help to practice self-compassion and embrace imperfections as part of your journey. and practice self-compassion.

  • Comparing yourself to others

Social media, television, and other entertainment sources often provide us with continuous images of (seeming) perfection. In a world where we are consistently exposed to such images, it may be tempting to compare yourself to what you see online or on TV. However, continual comparison to others can erode your self-esteem. It may help to remember that nobody’s perfect and then t. focus on your unique qualities and accomplishments rather than measuring yourself against external standards. 

  • A sense of emptiness or a lack of fulfillment

If you often feel a sense of emptiness or lack of fulfillment, it may be a signal that you need to explore and prioritize your own passions and desires. Sometimes, these feelings can be a sign of a serious mental health issues like depression. If you have overwhelming and/or persistent feelings of emptiness and isolation, you can reach out to a mental health professional for guidance. 

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Takeaway

Cultivating a strong sense of self-love can be a lifelong journey, but the rewards are immeasurable. Better physical and mental wellness and a greater ability to show compassion and care for others are a few examples of the benefits we reap when we commit to caring for ourselves.

Getting help with self-loveTypically, self-love means something different for everyone— what resonates with one person may not resonate with another. Do you need to recommit to a self-care routine? Do you find it difficult to set boundaries to protect your well-being? It’s important to take your time and get to know which areas you may need to work on the most. 

Sometimes, individuals need assistance with working on loving themselves, particularly if they engage in negative self-talk or feel unfulfilled. In cases like these, counseling can be a big help. If you don’t feel comfortable with in-person therapy at this time, you might consider online therapy. Online therapy through platforms like BetterHelp makes it easier than ever to find such guidance. 

BetterHhelp matches individuals with licensed counselors experienced in helping people cope with the challenges they may face nurturing and maintaining self-love and self-confidence. You may speak with a BetterHelp counselor from the comfort of your home according to your schedule via audio, video chat, or live chat. , online messaging, phone, or text. You may also reach out to your counselor in between appointments if you need extra support, and they will respond when they can.

Online therapy is often more affordable than traditional therapy without insurance, and a large body of research indicates it’s just as effective for helping people address concerns with self-love and confidence as well as for treating mental health conditions like anxiety and depression. 

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