Five Signs That Someone May Be Falling In Love With You

Medically reviewed by April Justice, LICSW and Nikki Ciletti, M.Ed, LPC
Updated October 23, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

If you have feelings for someone in your life and want to know if they feel the same, the only way to know for sure is to ask them directly. That said, there are a few different signs you can look out for that may indicate that someone you’re becoming close to could be developing romantic feelings for you. Learning to recognize them can inform your choices going forward about how you might like to progress the relationship. See below for five common signs that may indicate a person could be falling in love with you.

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You notice them looking at you often

Someone who is infatuated or in love with another person is likely to look at them often, both in the form of eye contact and unreturned glances or gazes. If you’ve noticed that someone you’ve been getting to know seems to be looking at you often even when you’re not looking their way, it could be a sign that they’re romantically interested in you and/or developing stronger romantic feelings. In fact, one study found that feelings of love “elicited more frequent eye fixations on the face than on the body” in contrast to lust, which elicited the reverse. Next time you notice the person you're interested in looking at you, you might try and take note of whether they’re focused on your face—which could indicate feelings of love.

They’ve introduced you to close family and friends

If someone is developing strong romantic feelings for you, it’s not uncommon for them to want to introduce you to their loved ones. They may want to see how you interact with the people they’re closest to, or they may simply want to spend time with multiple people who are important to them at once. Either way, the act of bringing you to events or get-togethers where their closest friends and family will be can represent a sign that this person feels close to you and/or wants to become closer.

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They remember the details you’ve talked with them

According to one academic paper on the topic, “the most prominent aspect of romantic attraction is obsessive thinking about the beloved.” Someone who is thinking about you often may be more likely to remember details about your conversations or interactions, as they may have replayed them in their mind. When the person you’re interested in asks about a difficult work problem you were facing or brings you your favorite candy bar because you mentioned these things in front of them previously, it could be a sign that they’re romantically interested in you and are retaining details about yourself that you’ve talked about.

They’re highly responsive via phone/text

Someone who is romantically interested in you will likely want to speak with you often, including when you’re apart. This may manifest as always responding to your texts or picking up when you call them and texting you frequently or in detail, for instance. It can be a sign that they enjoy being connected, hearing what you have to say, telling their thoughts with you, and becoming more emotionally connected, all of which could potentially point to feelings of love.

They want to have deeper conversations

A person who is interested in you romantically likely won’t keep your conversations on a superficial level. Instead, they may steer the conversation toward deeper topics in an effort to connect with you emotionally and get to know you in a more meaningful way. They might confide in you as well because they feel safe around you and want to be known by and bond with you. So, if you’ve noticed that you’ve gone from talking about the weather and your workday to your relationship with your family and future plans, for example, it could signify that this person wants to pursue a romantic connection with you.

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Doubts about love can lead to insecurity

What to do if you think someone is falling in love with you

Let’s say you’ve looked through the five signs above that a person might be falling in love with you and they’re mostly or all present. What next? The answer all depends on how you feel about them. If you’re not interested in them romantically, you may need to communicate this either directly or indirectly to avoid supporting false expectations. You might tell them you only see them as a friend, or you might begin spending less time with them or dating someone else. However, if you are interested in them romantically, the presence of these signs may give you the confidence to tell them how you feel and tell your thoughts about potentially moving forward with the relationship. 

Getting support in navigating relationships

Sorting out your feelings about someone and managing a romantic relationship can be challenging. That’s why some people find it helpful to meet with a therapist for guidance on topics like these. They can provide a nonjudgmental safe space in which you can express and process your thoughts and feelings. If you’re experiencing any distorted thinking or anxiety about your relationships, they can also help you learn to manage these, so you experience less distress.

Therapy options for working through feelings of love

When it comes to attending therapy, you can generally choose between in-person and online sessions according to your preference as research suggests that traditional, face-to-face therapy and online therapy can be “equally effective” in most cases. Those who prefer the convenience of virtual therapy might consider a platform like BetterHelp. You can get matched with a licensed therapist who you can meet with via phone, video call, and/or online chat to address the challenges you may be facing—all from the comfort of home or anywhere you have an internet connection. Regardless of the format you may choose, it can be helpful to know that compassionate support is available.

Takeaway

The only way to know someone’s true feelings is to ask them. That said, the signs outlined above can indicate that a person may be developing romantic feelings for you. If you’re looking for guidance in handling romantic relationships, speaking with a therapist may be helpful.

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