Marriage Articles

Medically reviewed by Laura Maddox

Marriage can be defined as a traditional institution in which two people who love one another vow to spend the rest of their lives together. They usually make it official by being legally united with one another. In some states, you may need at least one or two witnesses to go through with the marriage and make it legally binding. 

When you get married to someone, you normally become their life partner. In many cultures, marriages happen organically when two people fall in love. In other cultures, there can be arranged marriages where families set two people up to spend their lives together. Over the years, the institution of marriage may have changed, but what has generally stayed the same is that marriage can be the connection between two people who develop a unique bond with one another.

Online couples therapy can be an effective way to work through any of the challenges that may arise between spouses.

Love and marriage

People who love each other and want to spend their lives together often get married. Marriage isn’t always easy, and it can be rocky. To stay married to your partner for years, it can be important to accept that person for who they are inside and out. People usually have both flaws and strengths. 

There can be difficult times in a marriage, and couples may be fearful that they won’t make it through these moments. In traditional wedding vows, you may hear people say that they will love their partner “in sickness and in health, till death do us part.” People who take marriage seriously usually intend to stay with their spouse throughout their entire life.

Marriage and children

When you have children, marriage can become even more complicated. Having a family can be a beautiful thing, and raising children together may bring two people closer than ever. You may get to watch your babies grow into adults and create their own lives. 

While parenting can be rewarding, it can be equally challenging. This may be particularly true if you decide to separate from your partner, although every situation tends to be different. Children are often observant, and whether you choose to stay together or not, it can be important to take into account that your children may be watching the way you and your partner interact. 

Some people may choose to stay in an unhappy marriage because they have children together. However, this may not be what’s best for everyone, including the children. Addressing these concerns with a licensed professional can help you and your spouse make the right decision.

Divorce

Since marriage isn’t always easy, there can be times when people may question whether they should stay in the union. You might decide that you don’t want to stay married because of unhappiness, infidelity, or some other reason. Sometimes, as hard as two people try, marriages just don’t work out, and a couple decides to separate or divorce. Divorce can be difficult to cope with, even if you were the one to initiate it. Speaking with a therapist may help you process your feelings and heal.

Couples therapy

Couples therapy can help you and your spouse discuss what’s on your mind with an unbiased professional who can guide the conversation. Instead of going in circles with your spouse, you can participate in a productive conversation that may help you get to the root of the difficulties in your marriage. 

If you and your partner are both willing to work on your marriage, couples therapy can be an ideal place to talk about communication challenges, intimacy difficulties, infidelity, and more. You might be nervous to discuss sensitive and personal topics at therapy, but a marriage therapist generally isn’t there to judge. Rather, they normally want to help you work through your conflicts and find a healthy resolution together.

Online therapy

When your family leads a busy life, it can be hard to find the time for therapy. Online therapy can provide a safe space for you and your spouse to talk through your challenges in the privacy and comfort of your own home, potentially eliminating the need to figure out transportation and childcare. Plus, appointments are often available outside of typical office hours, likely making it easier to schedule sessions that work for you and your spouse.

Online therapy can be pursued individually or as a couple. One study explored the effectiveness of couples therapy delivered through videoconferencing as compared to face-to-face therapy. Researchers found that the online intervention was generally just as effective as traditional therapy. Both groups typically experienced “improvements in relationship satisfaction, mental health, and all other outcome scores over time.” 

Takeaway

Marriage can mean something different to everyone. Some people may view marriage as a legal, social, or cultural rite of passage, while others may see it as the next step in their relationship. Any relationship can have difficulties, and marriage is generally no exception. Those experiencing marital challenges may choose to confide in a couples therapist to overcome these obstacles. Working with a therapist, whether in person or online, may allow both partners to heal individually and as a couple, empowering their marriage to become happier and healthier.