The Power Of Positivity And Gratitude In Your Life And How To Achieve It

Medically reviewed by Melissa Guarnaccia, LCSWAndrea Brant, LMHC, and Julie Dodson, MA, LCSW
Updated October 29, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

When we face obstacles in life, the outcome is often dependent on how we perceive and react to the situation. An increasingly large number of studies show that learning to develop a positive, productive mindset can help you navigate difficult times and grow as a person. Positive thinking, which can be defined as a way of looking at yourself and the world around you with optimism, confidence, and enthusiasm, can be a powerful force in your life. It is a mindset that can often be nurtured with the right approach. It can be helpful to get regular exercise, check in on yourself regularly, utilize affirmations, and practice mindfulness. Working with an online or in-person therapist can also empower you to effectively shift your mindset.

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The right mindset can help you thrive

What is positive thinking?

Positive thinking can be considered a way of perceiving your circumstances and surroundings through an optimistic, affirmative lens. It is an attitude that can help you see the good in every situation, or at least avoid dwelling on the negative aspects. Positive thinking can result in an improved mood and other mental health benefits. A positive outlook can even reduce symptoms of physical health challenges. 

The power of positivity and gratitude

Positive thinking does not necessarily mean that you completely ignore negative events in your life or the feelings that accompany them. It can be normal to respond emotionally when you experience hardships. Rather, positive thinking can be characterized by optimism, confidence, and gratitude even in the face of adversity.

Positive thinking can be heavily influenced by self-talk, or the way we narrate our own lives. When practicing positive thinking, your self-talk will likely take on a hopeful, optimistic view. For example, if you have a job interview that did not go the way you wanted, negative thinking may tell you that there is no way you will get the job and the interview was a waste of time. Positive thinking, however, might flip the narrative to remind you that even if you do not get the job, it was a good experience, and you will be even more prepared for the next job interview.

As you can see, the way you frame the narrative in your mind can greatly influence your emotional response to an event. Positive thinking and self-talk can make even bad situations seem more manageable and lessen the emotional impact these events may have on you.

The benefits and power of positive thinking

By actively working toward a more positive attitude, you may reduce stress and anger and improve happiness and overall life satisfaction. Cultivating positivity can improve your productivity and give you the confidence to overcome challenges that are thrown your way.

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Another proven benefit of positive thinking can be decreased depression symptoms. Not only can positive thinking lead to greater happiness, but it can often help you look at the big picture instead of getting bogged down by potentially negative details.

Research suggests that positive thinking can also have physical health benefits, such as improved cardiovascular health and increased lifespan. It is thought that these benefits may be produced by lower levels of stress. High stress levels can negatively impact the immune system and other important bodily functions. 

Tips for positive thinking and happiness

Like any lifestyle change, positive thinking can be a hard habit to start. But with consistency, you can practice positive thinking in your everyday life. Follow these tips to start on your positivity journey.

Do some digging to achieve the proper mindset

In most cases, beginning a practice of positive thinking does not require an entire mental overhaul. Rather, it can help to identify the circumstances and emotions that cause you to think negatively and write them down so you can remember them. This list may include situations like your daily commute to work, a weekly meeting with a colleague, or even just a trip to the grocery store—anything that causes you to think negatively about your circumstances.

You might start small by committing to changing your thoughts toward one of the things on the list and try to practice positive thinking during that situation. Once you have a grasp on positivity in one area of your life, you can expand it into the other areas you’ve identified. 

Check-in with yourself and look for inspiration

It may take time for you to change your mindset, and there will likely still be times when you find yourself having a primarily negative outlook. Because of this, it can help to check in with your thoughts and emotions frequently. If you find that you’re focused on the negative in your life, it can be helpful to think about the circumstances that brought about this mindset. This can help you identify similar situations in the future in which you might start to think negatively. You can check in with yourself through a daily journal, regular meditation, or simply asking yourself what you are thinking and how you feel each day. 

Get your body moving for happiness and motivation

In general, exercise has proven benefits for both mental and physical health. One way exercise can affect your outlook is through the release of endorphins. Endorphins can be defined as hormones that are released during exercise. They typically promote relaxation and happiness. 

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The right mindset can help you thrive

In addition to the endorphin boost exercise can give you, physical activity often reduces anxiety, which can make positive thinking easier. When you are in a calm state of mind, you may be better able to develop a new perspective. Getting into a regular exercise routine can also boost your self-esteem, which may help you maintain confidence.

Look for the lesson to achieve optimism

It can be normal to have a negative reaction when you make a misstep or experience failure. When this happens, though, try to look for a lesson. If you missed an important deadline at work, you might think about what you can do in the future to prevent this from happening. By looking for the lesson in every mistake, and thus using your mistakes as learning experiences to improve yourself, you can put a positive frame on a negative experience.

Utilize affirmations

Positive self-talk can improve performance on tasks, boost self-esteem, and enhance mood. Repeating affirmations to yourself in the morning can encourage a positive frame of mind for the whole day. You might choose to start your morning by looking at yourself in the mirror and saying something uplifting, like “Today will be a great day.”

You can also utilize an affirmation that’s more personalized to your life. If you do not feel comfortable saying them out loud, you can write affirmations in a journal. Either way, starting your day with a positive affirmation can set the right tone and help you continue thinking positively all day.

Practice mindfulness for success

Focusing on the present moment can also help with positive thinking by eliminating distractions related to past or future events. Mindfulness is usually centered around bringing your awareness to your current thoughts, feelings, and surroundings. By quieting your mind and focusing on the present, you can relax and re-center, potentially giving yourself the opportunity to develop a fresh perspective without the worries we tend to accumulate throughout the day. 

Surround yourself with positive people

Do you have people in your life with whom you tend to engage in negativity or commiseration? Interacting with people who have a negative mindset can influence your thoughts and behaviors, possibly making it harder for you to foster positivity. If you have people like this in your life, try to change the tone of your conversations to focus on the positive aspects of your circumstances. You can also try to spend most of your time with people who practice positive thinking themselves. This can reinforce the outlook you’re trying to cultivate. 

Practice self-care

Often, we are so busy with work, school, relationships, and other obligations that we do not take time for ourselves. Self-care can be a necessary component of mental and physical wellness, often helping to empower us, provide us with confidence, and value ourselves highly. It can remind us that we are worth caring for and deserving of compassion. Taking some time for yourself and your hobbies can help you recharge your batteries, improve your health, and develop a positive mindset. 

Benefits of online therapy for proper mindset and motivation

If you’d like help fostering positivity in your life, consider utilizing an online therapy platform like BetterHelp. With online therapy, you can connect with a therapist remotely through video call, voice call, or online chat, which can help you avoid potentially negative experiences like traffic and sitting in a crowded waiting room. Your therapist can also help you get useful resources, such as at-home exercises that can assist you in practicing positivity on your own time.

Effectiveness of online therapy

Research shows that online therapy can help individuals shift their outlook, even in the face of significant life challenges. For example, in one study, researchers found that online therapy could help participants who were living with chronic pain develop a more positive mindset. Participants generally reported elevated levels of happiness and reduced depression, both immediately after treatment and at a six-month follow-up.  

Takeaway

Positive thinking can produce significant, measurable benefits, often leading to improved mental and physical well-being, personal growth, and a new approach to life. You can tap into the power of positive thinking and gain a new point of view by practicing self-care, looking for the lessons in challenging experiences, and surrounding yourself with positive people. If you’d like help developing a new perspective on life, consider online therapy. With the support and guidance of a professional, you can change your outlook, improve your mental health, and flourish.
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