Breathing Exercises For Kids: Regulating Emotions Early

Medically reviewed by Paige Henry, LMSW, J.D. and Arianna Williams, LPC, CCTP
Updated November 27, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Breathing exercises are a common coping skill used among adults, but children and teens can use them and benefit from them as well. These exercises often consist of breathing in a purposeful, mindful way, and they may help children learn to control emotions and self-soothe from an early age. Research indicates that breathing exercises can be advantageous for mental and physical health, so teaching your children may set them up for success in the long term.  

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The benefits of breathing techniques for children 

There are various benefits to breathing exercises for children, including the following. 

Deep breathing helps with anger management in children

By focusing on their breath, children can learn to regulate their emotions before they escalate. Breathing exercises can help a child de-escalate angry feelings and enter a calmer state. These coping mechanisms may also support children in communicating their feelings more clearly after acting out in anger. 

Breathing exercises for kids and stress management

Learning to manage stress through breathwork can be a valuable skill for children. Like adults, kids and teens often face stress. Breathing exercises may give kids a sense of control when feeling overwhelmed.

Breath control for anxiety relief

Various studies have shown that breathing exercises can help those facing anxiety symptoms. Like with stress and anger, kids can experience anxiety as much as adults can, so having tools to support them during times of overwhelm can be vital. When kids feel anxious, focusing on deep breaths can lower their heart rate, relax chest tension, and have a calming effect. If a child is living with an anxiety disorder, deep breathing may be a helpful coping skill if they experience anxiety or panic attacks in public.

Sleep improvements 

Deep breathing often calms the body and elicits a sense of relaxation, potentially cultivating healthier sleep. Having your child complete a breathing exercise as a form of meditation before sleeping may help them calm down while in bed. If your child experiences hyperactivity or insomnia before bed, these activities can be part of their sleep hygiene routine. 

Physical health improvements

Deep or diaphragmatic breath can also support physical health by promoting healthy blood pressure and respiratory muscle strength. In addition, deep breathing exercises can increase the oxygen flow in the body and brain, activate the parasympathetic nervous system, and promote a sense of mindfulness for kids. One of the most beneficial aspects of breathing exercises is that they can be used virtually anywhere. Kids benefit from healthy coping skills like adults, and breathing exercises can be done on the go. 

Breathing exercises for kids

Breathing can be a useful coping skill, and it is beneficial that kids learn this early. To practice deep breathing techniques with your child, make sure you are in a relaxed environment and sitting comfortably. There are several ways to practice breathing. Here are some simple, child-friendly breathing exercises that are easy to explain and easy to understand:

The five-five-ten breathing exercise

To engage in the 5-5-10 breathing exercise, simply breathe in while counting to five at an even pace. Then, hold your breath while you count to five at the same even pace. After that, breathe out slowly while you count to ten. 

The four-seven-eight breathing exercise 

This breathing exercise is often used to help children fall asleep. To practice it, close your eyes and breathe in slowly as you count to four. Then, pause and hold your breath while you count to seven. After counting to seven, let your breath out slowly while counting to eight.

The equal breathing exercise 

Equal breathing is often considered one of the most straightforward breathing exercises. It requires equal inhale to exhalation breaths. To practice this exercise, breathe in while you count to four. Pause before breathing out for another four counts. Complete this exercise at a slow, steady pace. 

Alternate nostril breathing

Cover one nostril with your thumb and breathe in and out slowly through the other nostril. For this exercise, make sure to take deep breaths. Then switch sides, covering the other nostril, and breathe in and out slowly through the uncovered one. Keep alternating until you feel relaxed. 

The tumble dryer exercise

To begin this breathing exercise, kids can sit with their legs crossed. Have them place the index fingers of both hands in front of their mouth. Ask the child to take a large breath in through the nose, then exhale through the mouth. As they blow out through their mouth, have them swirl their fingers around like they are rolling in a tumble dryer while listening to their breath and how it sounds passing through the fingers. 

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Belly breathing 

To start the belly breathing exercise, sit, stand, or lay down with your back flat on the floor. Make sure that you're in a comfortable position. Then, put your hand or gently lay a finger on your abdomen. Breathe in slowly, directing the air toward your hand while keeping it on your belly. Take a pause. Then, let the breath out slowly and peacefully. It can help to do this exercise with your eyes closed to promote further relaxation. 

Deep breathing with props

Using props can benefit younger kids of any age who may have trouble engaging in breathing exercises independently. Kids often learn best when having fun. Making breathing into a game can make it seem less like an exercise or a purposeful attempt to calm down. 

Use a tool such as a pinwheel, bubbles, or dandelion seeds found outside to encourage deep breathing exercises. You might also try placing a toy on the abdomen and instructing the child to watch it move as they practice belly breathing. A Hoberman sphere or breathing ball is a toy explicitly meant to aid children in learning how to breathe mindfully. This ball can help children see how their lungs expand when they breathe and have a colorful and visual representation of the exercise.

Bubble breathing 

Bubble breathing can be a fun way to practice deep breaths. If you don't have a physical prop, such as a bubble-blowing wand, pretending to blow bubbles may also work. Instruct your child to hold out their hand like they're holding a bubble wand. They can use a finger as a wand as well. 

With their hand out, ask them to close their eyes and breathe in while you count to five. Then, ask them to pause. After that, tell them to let their breath out slowly and evenly. You can also ask them to pretend they are blowing dandelion seeds, birthday candles, or any other prop that works for the exercise.

Feather breathing

This exercise uses a prop, but it has an added element of mindfulness. Get a bag of colored feathers at your local craft store. Have a child place a feather of their choice on the palm of their hand. To start, instruct your child to close their eyes, breathe in, and hold the feather in front of their face. Then, tell them to release their breath without letting the feather fall from their hand.

The dragon game

Making deep breathing into a game is a way to make breathing exercises more appealing to kids. Ask your child to pretend they're a dragon and instruct them to breathe in slowly before preparing to breathe out fire. Ask them to hold their breath and pause. Then, have them look around and breathe slowly to ensure the "fire" spreads across the room. 

These dragon fire breaths may help the child exhale slowly and deliberately through their mouth. This exercise has different variations, and videos online are explicitly made for kids that teach them how to play the dragon game or engage in dragon breathing. 

Another common variation is "the snake game," or snake breathing. To play the snake game, you'll engage in the same pattern of deep breathing, but instead of being a dragon, you breathe out with a hissing sound like a snake. The in-breath may need to be deep enough to exhale a long snake breath.

Bumblebee breathing 

Bumblebee breaths are another fun, animal-inspired way to breathe deeply. Inhale deeply through the nose. Gather as much air as you can in your lungs. When you exhale, make a buzzing sound like a bee with your mouth. The vibrating breaths can help you return to the body and avoid distractions. Try putting a finger over your mouth or on your throat to feel the vibration as you blow out.  

Bunny breath

Bunny breaths incorporate fingers and arms so children can engage their bodies while taking deep breaths. Hold up two fingers and imagine they are the bunny's ears. Keep your shoulders relaxed. Start with your fingers low and curled. Then, take a deep breath with your nose scrunched like a bunny. As you do this, raise your arm slowly while lifting the ears (your fingers) as you go. When you exhale, breathe out slowly while lowering your arm and the bunny's ears.

Mountain breathing

Draw four mountain peaks on a piece of paper. Instruct the child to trace the mountains with their index finger. Take a deep breath through your nose as you go up the mountain. As your finger moves down the slope, exhale the air through your mouth. 

There are also several books, audiobooks, free prints, and recordings of guided breathing exercises for children to help them grasp and engage in breathing exercises. 

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Counseling options for parents and teens 

Caring for a child can be a significant responsibility, and caregivers or parents may experience stress, mental health challenges, or confusion regarding caregiving. Whether you seek support with parenting challenges, stress, a life change, or a transition, online counseling platforms like BetterHelp offer thousands of therapists for parents and others seeking support. 

Online therapy allows busy caregivers the freedom to speak with a therapist within their schedule from anywhere they choose via phone calls, online messaging, or video chat. In addition, online therapy is often discreet, more affordable than in-person therapy, and as effective as face-to-face treatment in addressing mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).  

If you are experiencing trauma, support is available. Please see our Get Help Now page for more resources.

If you're looking for an online therapist specializing in working with teens and adolescents, platforms like TeenCounseling can connect adolescents aged 13 to 19 with various licensed, accredited therapists with experience working with teens and adolescents. An online therapist can help teens work through breathing exercises and other emotional regulation skills at home and on the go. 

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Takeaway

Children and teens can often benefit from similar coping skills as adults. However, with shorter attention spans and different emotional needs, they may benefit most from breathing exercises designed to be interactive and easy to understand. If you're looking for further guidance for you or your child in emotional regulation, consider contacting a therapist for support.
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