Therapy may enable you to explore your relationship with authority and obedience, among other topics.
Online therapy is often viewed as an increasingly popular way to avail psychotherapeutic services. You can avail of therapy from your home, and you can match with therapists outside of your geographic area. Those facing therapist shortages may turn to online therapy as a viable alternative.
Online therapists normally use the same evidence-based techniques as traditional therapists, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, which can effectively improve many mental health concerns. A therapist can help you understand your relationship to obedience and authority and encourage you to change your life. Evidence indicates that when therapy is administered online, it can be just as effective as in-person therapy.
Talking to a counselor or therapist can be a helpful way to learn more about the psychology of obedience and explore its effects on your life and relationships. Depending on your current challenges, you might consider asking your counselor questions like:
How can I learn to follow my own morals and judgment, even when they go against what I’m being told to do?
Can learning to set healthy boundaries help me avoid destructive obedience? If so, where do I start?
How do environmental factors like work stress affect my tendency to obey others?
Can you help me explore how my upbringing and family history might have affected my relationship with authority figures?
How can I learn to resist peer pressure?
How do I unlearn the belief that disobeying orders makes me “difficult” or a “bad person?”
Questions like these can serve as a starting point for exploring obedience with your mental health professional.
Several famous examples from history can help illustrate the power of obedience to authority in human psychology. For instance, in the aftermath of World War II, Nazi official Adolf Eichmann notoriously tried to justify his role in the Holocaust using the defense that he was “just following orders.” This defense sparked an interest in the psychology of obedience, and the effect of direct orders from someone of a higher status on a person’s sense of right and wrong.
Later, the Milgram experiment aimed to shed light on this topic. Psychologist Stanley Milgram wanted to understand if people could be led to harm others just by receiving orders from someone in a position of power. In the experiment, participants believed they were giving a series of electric shocks to someone in another room. Although the people in the other room were not actually being electrocuted, they pretended to be in increasing amounts of pain with each subsequent shock.
If the participant refused to keep delivering shocks, the experimenters would use a series of verbal prods to encourage them to continue, such as, “You have no other choice,” and, “It is essential that you continue.” The experiment would end if the person giving the shocks continued to refuse, or after they had delivered three shocks in a row at the maximum level.
The study found that people are often surprisingly obedient to authority figures, even when what they’re being asked to do harms others or goes against their morals. Nearly 65% of participants obeyed the experimenters, despite the cries of pain from the other participants.
The term “obedience conditioning” typically refers to the process of training animals—often dogs—to obey commands like “sit” and “stay.” Often, this process of developing obedience involves:
Using rewards to encourage desired behaviors
Withholding rewards to discourage unwanted behaviors
Associating commands or gestures with behaviors and rewards
Practicing commands in different environments and with different people
Some of these strategies, like positive reinforcement and discipline, may also be used in other areas, like parenting. However, the term “obedience conditioning” is not typically used in these contexts.
If you’re interested in learning about the psychology of obedience, you may want to start by:
Researching Stanley Milgram’s experiment, as well as other scientific studies on obedience, peer pressure, conformity, and authority
Educating yourself about group psychology and how peer pressure and social dynamics can affect behavior
Reflecting on examples of destructive obedience from politics, history, or current events
In addition, you may also find it helpful to talk to a psychologist or therapist about the ways obedience appears in your own life and relationships.