How To Chart A Course For A Happier Future - Bobby Blog
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When I first signed up for BetterHelp about five months ago, I was struggling with co-dependent relationships. I kept finding myself in relationships with women who were emotionally abusive, unfaithful, and would end up leaving me. I therefore signed up after a breakup because I was in so much emotional pain. However, since working with my counselor, Michelle, on BetterHelp, my improvement is night and day. I went from feeling intolerable amounts of emotional pain to generally feeling healthy, strong, confident, and positive.
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How therapy helped me process my emotions
Michelle has showed me how to accept my current situation and forgive myself for being there. She also showed me how to process the pain I was feeling—scream into a pillow, cry, punch my bed, whatever it takes—really feel it then let it go. She helped me understand why I kept repeating these bad relationship patterns and supported me through addressing the root causes. She taught me to be thankful for the lessons and to allow myself to move on and strive for better relationships.
Understanding and breaking patterns: How to chart a course in therapy
I learned how to chart a course for a healthier and happier future, and how to walk that path with strength and positivity. Aligning myself with those types of good thoughts and intentions got me some surprising results early on in our sessions. I got closure with the girl, started attracting and being attracted to healthier women, and got promoted at work.
How to chart a course: My experience finding the right therapist
Because of all that Michelle has taught me, I am so grateful I stumbled across a Facebook ad for BetterHelp five months ago. I've seen other counselors in the past before Michelle through my benefits program at work.
Previous experiences with counselors
They first referred me to an online counselor. I would email her and she would email back in a day or two. She and I did not gel in the way that Michelle and I do—I found she didn't really understand me or have a good grasp on my problem, and her counseling was not helpful. From there they escalated me to an in-person counselor. I only saw her twice and never went back. She was good—she knew exactly what I was dealing with, and how to resolve it. However, she showed no empathy, and honestly made me feel embarrassed that I was struggling with these issues.
The value of empathy in therapy
I recall she also spent our first session having me fill out paperwork, and then after only 10 minutes or so of actual counseling, she said our time was up and rushed me out. After her, I tried another online counselor who I had better luck with. She helped me through a previous breakup at that time and showed me the root causes of the pattern that I needed to address. But once I felt better about the breakup, I moved on without doing the work to address the root causes. So a few years later, I wound up back in the same situation, which brought me to BetterHelp.
Why BetterHelp worked for me
The main components that drew me into BetterHelp were the price and flexibility. I work 50 to 60 hours a week, and have a hard time committing to appointments, so the online format is perfect for me. I like that I can book a call with Michelle if I need one, but she is also there if I just need to message her or vent about something. I feel that the advantage to in-person counseling is the obvious human touch it gives, but I can get that with Michelle through a video or phone call if I need to. It's the best of both worlds. And the price tag makes long-term counseling affordable—BetterHelp costs a fraction of what other people charge.
Impact of online counseling on mental health
Overall, thanks to Michelle's support on BetterHelp, I improved my self-confidence, and got into a healthier and more positive frame of mind which I have been able to sustain so far for a few months. Compared to where I was five months ago—hopeless, heartbroken, in pain, etc.—this is a huge accomplishment, I'd say!
Try online counseling and share your journey on a blog
Given BetterHelp’s network of more than 35,000 licensed therapists, you can be matched with someone who has experience helping people with similar concerns. If needed, you can always change therapists until you find someone that you perceive is a good matchand with whom you feel comfortable.
Effectiveness of online therapy
With BetterHelp, you can engage in therapy completely online, which research has shown to be just as effective as in-person therapy. You can connect with a therapist via audio or video chat at a time that suits your schedule. Also, you can reach out to them 24/7 via in-app messaging, and they’ll get back to you as soon as they can.
Consider sharing your journey on a blog to reflect on your progress and connect with others facing similar challenges.
Takeaway
Why do people like online therapy?
Many people prefer online therapy for several reasons, but two of the most common are its convenience and cost-effectiveness. You can attend online therapy from any comfortable location, including your home. Many will find it easier to attend online therapy sessions than in-person sessions because the need to travel to an office has been removed. Those who live in rural areas or areas underserved by mental health professionals also commonly cite the convenience of being able to meet with a therapist without traveling a long distance.
While some people’s health insurance covers a considerable amount of the cost of therapy, many people are left paying out of pocket for mental health services. They sometimes prefer online therapy because it tends to be cheaper than many in-person options. When combined with the cost savings of reduced travel, many people have found online therapy to be a substantially more cost-effective option than in-person alternatives.
Does online therapy work as well as in-person?
The recent rise in the popularity of online therapy spurred several advances in research investigating its effectiveness. As online therapy grew more popular, researchers and practitioners were initially concerned that conducting therapy remotely could interfere with the therapeutic process and substantially reduce the effectiveness of well-established psychotherapeutic techniques.
Such a concern is often warranted when new technology or techniques threaten to disrupt the fidelity of mental health practices, but research indicates the concern was largely unfounded. In most cases, online therapy is just as effective as in-person therapy. Some situations, such as especially severe mental health conditions or substance use, are likely better treated through in-person options, but most people will find that online therapy offers similar benefits to traditional approaches.
Why do people go to counseling and not just blog about their problems?
A person can seek the services of a mental health professional for almost any reason, including treatment of a mental health condition, help solving difficult problems, setting goals for personal growth, or overcoming challenging life circumstances. Couples often seek therapy to increase their relationship satisfaction, and families may seek therapy as a unit to help manage difficult situations or improve cohesion among family members.
Although many people can benefit from therapy, not everyone is sure when it is time to seek the services of a qualified mental health professional. To help demonstrate when therapy may be helpful, the American Psychological Association provided the following common signs that therapy may benefit you:
- You frequently feel overwhelming helplessness and sadness.
- Your problems don’t seem to improve despite your best efforts or help from loved ones.
- You find it difficult to concentrate at work, school, or during everyday activities.
- You feel constant worry or continually expect the worst.
- You exhibit behavior that harms yourself or others, such as excessive drinking or aggression.
Can therapy help people feel happier after charting a course for counseling?
Although many people believe that therapy is only for those with diagnosable mental health conditions, a significant number of people seek the services of a mental health professional for help solving problems, overcoming difficult circumstances, or achieving personal growth. If a person feels unhappy, therapy may be able to help, even if their unhappiness doesn’t rise to the level of clinical depression.
Evidence suggests that many types of therapy can help people increase their happiness. Positive therapy techniques may be especially effective for this, especially during adverse life circumstances. Other types of therapy, like cognitive-behavioral approaches, can help people change negative thought processes that might reduce their happiness. It might also help them change behaviors likely to reduce happiness rather than increase it. Whatever the case, if you’re not feeling as happy as you’d like, there is a good chance that therapy can help.
What’s the difference between online therapists and in-person therapists?
In the United States, online and in-person therapists have the same education, training, and credentials. Like their in-person peers, online therapists must possess a license to practice within their state that demonstrates they have acquired the necessary training and experience to practice psychotherapy. Therapists usually possess at least a master’s degree and are typically required to obtain hundreds or thousands of hours of supervised practice before seeing patients independently.
Online and in-person therapists can obtain additional training in a specialty area, and many therapists practice both online and in-person. When practicing remotely, some therapists likely prefer techniques that work especially well online, like cognitive behavioral therapy, but they are qualified to use whatever techniques they believe will benefit their patients the most. Overall, there is very little difference between online and in-person therapists, and it may be worthwhile to consider seeing an online therapist if accessing in-person therapy near you is difficult.
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