Because of all that Michelle has taught me, I am so grateful I stumbled across a Facebook ad for BetterHelp five months ago. I've seen other counselors in the past before Michelle through my benefits program at work.
They first referred me to an online counselor. I would email her and she would email back in a day or two. She and I did not gel in the way that Michelle and I do—I found she didn't really understand me or have a good grasp on my problem, and her counseling was not helpful. From there they escalated me to an in-person counselor. I only saw her twice and never went back. She was good—she knew exactly what I was dealing with, and how to resolve it. However, she showed no empathy, and honestly made me feel embarrassed that I was struggling with these issues.
I recall she also spent our first session having me fill out paperwork, and then after only 10 minutes or so of actual counseling, she said our time was up and rushed me out. After her, I tried another online counselor who I had better luck with. She helped me through a previous breakup at that time and showed me the root causes of the pattern that I needed to address. But once I felt better about the breakup, I moved on without doing the work to address the root causes. So a few years later, I wound up back in the same situation, which brought me to BetterHelp.
The main components that drew me into BetterHelp were the price and flexibility. I work 50 to 60 hours a week, and have a hard time committing to appointments, so the online format is perfect for me. I like that I can book a call with Michelle if I need one, but she is also there if I just need to message her or vent about something. I feel that the advantage to in-person counseling is the obvious human touch it gives, but I can get that with Michelle through a video or phone call if I need to. It's the best of both worlds. And the price tag makes long-term counseling affordable—BetterHelp costs a fraction of what other people charge.
Overall, thanks to Michelle's support on BetterHelp, I improved my self-confidence, and got into a healthier and more positive frame of mind which I have been able to sustain so far for a few months. Compared to where I was five months ago—hopeless, heartbroken, in pain, etc.—this is a huge accomplishment, I'd say!
Given BetterHelp’s network of more than 35,000 licensed therapists, you can be matched with someone who has experience helping people with similar concerns. If needed, you can always change therapists until you find someone that you perceive is a good matchand with whom you feel comfortable.
With BetterHelp, you can engage in therapy completely online, which research has shown to be just as effective as in-person therapy. You can connect with a therapist via audio or video chat at a time that suits your schedule. Also, you can reach out to them 24/7 via in-app messaging, and they’ll get back to you as soon as they can.
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Many people prefer online therapy for several reasons, but two of the most common are its convenience and cost-effectiveness. You can attend online therapy from any comfortable location, including your home. Many will find it easier to attend online therapy sessions than in-person sessions because the need to travel to an office has been removed. Those who live in rural areas or areas underserved by mental health professionals also commonly cite the convenience of being able to meet with a therapist without traveling a long distance.
While some people’s health insurance covers a considerable amount of the cost of therapy, many people are left paying out of pocket for mental health services. They sometimes prefer online therapy because it tends to be cheaper than many in-person options. When combined with the cost savings of reduced travel, many people have found online therapy to be a substantially more cost-effective option than in-person alternatives.
The success of talk therapy typically relies on the strength of the client-therapist relationship. Studies show that online therapists can achieve a strong therapeutic alliance and the “three-legged stool” (where the first leg is evidence-based practice, the second is clinical expertise, and the third is considering individual circumstances).
Many online therapists implement a client strategy to foster a safe, non-judgmental, trusting environment that helps clients focus on the issues that brought them to therapy.
The recent rise in the popularity of online therapy spurred several advances in research investigating its effectiveness. As online therapy grew more popular, researchers and practitioners were initially concerned that conducting therapy remotely could interfere with the therapeutic process and substantially reduce the effectiveness of well-established psychotherapeutic techniques.
Such a concern is often warranted when new technology or forward-thinking techniques threaten to disrupt the fidelity of mental health practices, but research indicates the concern was largely unfounded. In most cases, online therapy is just as effective as in-person therapy. Some situations, such as especially severe mental health conditions or substance use, are likely better treated through in-person options, but most people will find that online therapy offers similar benefits to traditional approaches.
In addition to talk therapy, many people can benefit from self-care and community engagement. Here are a few ideas:
A person can seek the services of a mental health professional for almost any reason, including treatment of a mental health condition, help solving difficult problems, setting goals for personal growth, or overcoming challenging life circumstances. Couples often seek therapy to increase their relationship satisfaction, and families may seek therapy as a unit to help manage difficult situations or improve cohesion among family members.
Although many people can benefit from therapy, not everyone is sure when it is time to seek the services of a qualified mental health professional. To help demonstrate when therapy may be helpful, the American Psychological Association provided the following common signs that therapy may benefit you:
Therapy can help with many other things, too, including helping you develop organization skills if you struggle with executive functioning issues, work on team-leadership skills, find your passion, make course corrections in your life, create deeper connections with friends and family, and learn to discuss and put words to challenging emotions. Many important people and leaders pursue talk therapy and credit it with helping them succeed.
Although many people believe that therapy is only for those with diagnosable mental health conditions, a significant number of people seek the services of a mental health professional for help solving problems, overcoming difficult circumstances, or achieving personal growth. If a person feels unhappy, therapy may be able to help, even if their unhappiness doesn’t rise to the level of clinical depression.
Evidence suggests that many types of therapy can help people increase their happiness. Positive therapy techniques may be especially effective for this, especially during adverse life circumstances. Other types of therapy, like cognitive-behavioral approaches, can help people change negative thought processes that might reduce their happiness. It might also help them change behaviors likely to reduce happiness rather than increase it. Whatever the case, if you’re not feeling as happy as you’d like, there is a good chance that therapy can help you gain a clear picture of your life and chart your own path.
In the United States, online and in-person therapists have the same education, training, and credentials. Like their in-person peers, online therapists must possess a license to practice within their state that demonstrates they have acquired the necessary training and experience to practice psychotherapy. Therapists are usually psychology students for many years, earning at least a master’s degree and completing hundreds or thousands of hours of supervised practice before seeing patients independently.
Online and in-person therapists can obtain additional training in a specialty area, and many therapists practice both online and in-person. When practicing remotely, some therapists likely prefer techniques that work especially well online, like cognitive behavioral therapy, but they are qualified to use whatever techniques they believe will benefit their patients the most. Overall, there is very little difference between online and in-person therapists, and it may be worthwhile to consider seeing an online therapist if accessing in-person therapy near you is difficult.
Other reasons people may choose to go in the online direction for therapy include:
If you’re interested in working with a therapist, consider reading about their background and ensuring they’re licensed.