What Is Main Character Energy And How Does It Relate To Narrative Therapy?

Medically reviewed by Corey Pitts, MA, LCMHC, LCAS, CCS
Updated January 16, 2025by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Some people may report experiencing life as a narrative, or life story, into which the events of their life fit in some way. This way of viewing life can be a way to make meaning of experiences and emotions. However, if you struggle to develop “main character energy,” which can shape the story you tell about your life, you might wonder how to work on being more comfortable in your skin. Below, explore the concept of main character energy and how narrative therapy may help individuals embrace this energy as they work toward their personal goals this year. 

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Main character syndrome: Being the center of attention

Before looking at the concept of main character energy, you might look at what it is not: main character syndrome. Main character syndrome is not an official diagnosis like borderline personality disorder (BPD), for which some therapists may use dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to treat. Instead, it’s a term used to describe a tendency to try to be the center of attention. 

How someone with main character energy might use this energy negatively 

Someone with main character syndrome may use main character energy in a way that’s detrimental to others. This tendency may lead someone to make every situation about themselves. For example, they might act like the protagonist at someone else’s birthday party. They may have an inflated sense of self and act or dress in an inauthentic way. People with main character syndrome may also lack empathy and find a way to make others' problems about themselves. This syndrome is not the same as main character energy, which is not inherently harmful. 

What is main character energy? 

Main character energy is a pop culture term for how you act around others and view yourself. Someone with main character energy might see themselves as the lead protagonist of their life, able to make choices that positively impact their overall life path. When you have main character energy, you’re confident, sure of yourself, and comfortable in your skin. You’re able to wear clothing you’re comfortable in, express your style, show your personality, and be authentic in social situations. Main character energy is not being selfish, pretending that other people aren’t as important as you, or believing that you are the main character in everyone’s story.

How to cultivate main character energy

Individuals may be able to cultivate main character energy by questioning the story they’ve been telling themselves. Some people may have been telling themselves a story that includes inaccurate thoughts about themselves. There may be some ways to build main character energy in life. The following are just a few. 

Journaling 

Putting your thoughts on paper may help you explore them in greater detail. By journaling about their thoughts, individuals may begin to see a distorted story they’ve long been telling themselves. This process may help them change inaccurate thoughts and center themselves in a new story that empowers them. 

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Getting out of your comfort zone

For some people, building more main character energy may involve getting out of their comfort zone and trying new activities. For example, some people may benefit from crossing the room at a party and talking to new people. People who have told themselves that they are shy may not feel comfortable doing this at first, but stepping out of your comfort zone may build main character energy. 

Learn to discern when to be the protagonist

While building main character energy often involves initiative, there may be times when it’s appropriate to step back and allow others to have the spotlight. Doing so may help a person use main character energy at the right times without overshadowing others. Also, taking a step back can be an empowering move that still allows a person to be at the center of their own story without needing excessive attention. 

Narrative therapy to become the protagonist in your story

While the above strategies may be useful for building main character energy, speaking with a mental health professional who practices narrative therapy may be more effective. Mental health providers may be able to help individuals see aspects of the story they’ve been telling themselves that have been difficult to see on their own. Many people see only the negative aspects of their story. Therapy may help them rewrite their story with positive aspects that have previously existed only in the background. 

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Online mental health care to build main character energy

Some people who are experiencing difficulty building main character energy might be hesitant about attending therapy in person. In these cases, online therapy through a platform like BetterHelp may be more accessible. Online therapy platforms typically have thousands of therapists, so finding someone who practices narrative therapy may be easier. Online therapy allows individuals to speak with a therapist and receive mental health treatment via phone, video, or live chat from home or anywhere with an internet connection.

Many studies have demonstrated the effectiveness of online therapy for various mental health challenges. One study looked at online therapy and found it to be effective for social anxiety, depression, phobias, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), among other disorders. Also, you don’t have to have a mental health condition to see an online therapist. Mental health professionals can often help with a variety of challenges and concerns. Seeking therapy online may help you develop more main character energy and a more empowering narrative about your life.

Takeaway

Main character energy can help people center themselves in their life stories and empower them to make significant life changes. Some people may benefit from narrative therapy, which can often help build main character energy and reshape a person’s life story. If you’re interested in narrative therapy, you might consider trying affordable online therapy or reaching out to a therapist in your area.
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