I feel that I'm not connecting with the people around me. Is it me? Or are they not "my people"?

Hi Villa! 

Building relationships is difficult! Whether a romantic relationship, a friendship, a professional relationship, or anything else. Building and maintaining them takes a lot of work.

How do you know they don't like you? Did they tell you that? If they did tell you, then that's an easy way to weed out the people who you know you will not form relationships with. If they didn't tell you that then it is likely that you told yourself they don't like you. Connections can be hard, especially at first but that does not mean that someone does not like you, it just means that the friendship might need some more work and growth before it is where you want it to be. 

I would like to suggest that you be more mindful of your inner voice. What are you saying to yourself? Are you simply staying in the moment and allowing things to happen as they happen when you are interacting with new friends or are you telling yourself things such as, "he or she doesn't like me"? Talk to yourself in a positive way, as if you were your friend. Tell yourself more helpful things, such as, "This connection is hard to make with this person, what can we do differently to help it grow?" or "I have these good qualities, I know this new friend will see those too, let's focus on those."

So much of what happens around us is based on how we talk to ourselves, or our inner voice. Unless you know for a fact because someone told you that they don't like you, then don't assume they don't. Our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are all connected. If you are thinking that someone does not like you, it is likely that you are projecting those thoughts in some way and then that person can sense that something is off. They might be doing the same thing in their own heads, causing the disconnect. If you show up with confidence that the new friendship will work and show that you are kind, caring, and compassionate you will project that positivity onto the other person and the interactions should be better. Just be kind to yourself! I wish you the best with this and hope you can develop some healthy and happy relationships!