I need a counselor for a narcissistic relationship recovery

Hi Michelle, I have a background in working with individuals who have been in domestic violence situations, including emotional abuse and narcissitic abuse. I would be glad to work with you if you are interested. Emotional abuse can be very confusing and can have long-lasting effects. I am glad that you are aware that that is what was going on. It sounds like you have made a lot of progress already, and I believe that you can continue to improve. One type of therapy that I sometimes use for treating past trauma, including relational trauma, is an evidence-based therapy called EMDR. You can see more information about this type of therapy at the following web addresses: How EMDR works https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKrfH43srg8&feature=youtu.be EMDR demonstration https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZyValaMBjs&feature=youtu.be Helpful Websites about EMDR http://www.emdria.org/ http://www.emdr.com/ I never insist on using this form of therapy, as it can sometimes be emotionally intense, and clients may feel worse before they feel better; but I have also seen rapid results for clients using this. Sometimes clients just need someone to talk to and someone to validate their experience. I am glad to be that for you, as well. We can also use a combinations of approaches, with you as the guide determining what feels comfortable for you. In addition to dealing with the trauma of emotional abuse, most clients who have left abusive relationships are also dealing with the grief and loss that accompanies that decision. Sometimes this loss is financial security, sometimes survivors have lost relationships with friends and family members by leaving the abusive relationship, for some it is the loss of the dream and what the survivor expected the relationship to be. Grief can take time, but there is hope and healing. I believe that your situation can improve and am happy to help you on that journey. I also hear that you are dealing with a lot of guilt and that you may need help sorting that out. I am hearing feelings of confusion, as well. All of these responses are normal and understandable when you have suffered emotional and narcissitic abuse. Please know that it is not your fault and that you will feel better as you continue to sort out all of these mixed-up and confusing emotions.