I need help finding the right therapist for me

Hello yes I understand it sometimes can be overwhelming and frustrating. 

I would highly recommend that when you are looking for a therapist that is going to help you to ask them if they have additional training. You could just do some sort of consultation perhaps to say these are the questions I have. The questions could range from maybe some of the behaviors that you feel to see if the therapist is able to identify and recognize what you're talking about.

You know we all have different backgrounds and different understandings with perception as well as presentation. I can understand that this is frustrating for you and I understand that you are seeking help. Just recognize that it might just be sometimes the counselor that you are seeing may have misunderstood or may be trying to do a different approach that might ultimately help you even better than you ever thought.  You know sometimes when we try something different with a different approach sometimes it can work. If you do what you've always done sometimes the outcome stays the very same. Sometimes change is difficult and sometimes when we try to do something different it can be hard. Maybe ask yourself if you feel like you are not getting the help you need are you able to express what you need. Maybe ask yourself if you feel like there is a pattern where people are not understanding what you are struggling with, maybe try to explain things in a different way to see if it's interpreted different.  I can understand the frustration because you were only wanting to get help you don't want to feel the way you are feeling and I'm sorry you are having to go through this.

Just remember that when it comes to mental health it can be quite complex. It might be the therapist or the few therapists that you have encountered are actually very well intentioned and want to help you. Perhaps they are trying to show you a different approach that they feel is from their perspective of training that they are knowledgeable in. Sometimes change is difficult and sometimes it's overwhelming because we are not sure if we can do what is expected. Coping strategies, skills training, therapy processing, our diet sleep exercise and focusing on making changes to promote mental wellness sometimes can be overwhelming. Sometimes the behaviors that coexist with other struggles in daily life sometimes can prove to be challenging as well.  

Taking a look at what you can control versus what you can't control might also be helpful. For example maybe trying to give the process a chance. Maybe giving it a little more time. Taking a look at what you can control versus what you can't control might also be helpful. Maybe while you feel like you're not getting the help you need maybe you are getting the help needed but it needs to be a little more time. Remember when we change a pattern or we are working on coping skills  as well as mental health wellness it takes time.

I wish you the very best in finding a therapist or counselor that can help you. I understand it's not easy and I appreciate your reaching out with questions. I think moving forward when you meet with a counselor or therapist I would specifically ask them what you are needing. If there is a certain type of therapy theory or modality ask them about it. If you are looking for a certain approach from a therapist or you have questions about their approach I would ask it at the very beginning. I know sometimes it can be hard but please try to recognize that these counselors and therapists really are out there to try to help you. They are not trying to make you feel like you are not listened to and they are not out there to try to make you feel frustrated.

I truly do believe that everybody has their own fit and you just need to keep searching to find the right fit and you will find somebody. I wish you the very best in your endeavors on trying to find help. Focusing on the positive things, such as you were able to get some therapist that did talk to you and they were trying to be helpful and recognize that you will find somebody that will be exactly what you were looking for in time. Sometimes we don't always ask the questions we need to ask and so as time evolves you will start to perfect questions and eventually you will find a counselor that meets your needs with understanding what is going on to help you.

Just remember sometimes in life we meet people that are helpful and they may not quite be what we are looking for but somehow they helped us in the journey.  I would just look at the situation like that, while you are trying to find a therapist that understands you in a way that you were looking for whether it is a theory or modality in therapy approaches.. I wish you the very best thank you again for asking the question I am very happy to help you.