What do I do?

Hello Sid,

My name is James and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the State of Florida.

I have worked in the mental health industry for many years and I acknowledge that these are challenging times for many people.

You indicated having no employment history but stated you are seeking employment.

You did not describe any information that would support why your previous applications were rejected.

As a therapist I would need more information to base any feedback on but in this arena I can offer basic suggestions only.

A good place to begin is with an inventory of what you bring to a potential employer. Not everyone is a match for every position. Identify your specific qualifications and strengths. Educational level, certifications, life experience, special skills, all of these are potentially useful for employers, but let's be reasonable. If you're applying for general restaurant or fast food positions, identifying certification in plumbing repair would not be a guaranteed positive because it is not relevant to the position. If you are submitting a résumé take time to adjust it for the position that you are applying for.

Should you receive specific feedback as to why you were not selected take it upon yourself to improve the identified deficit. For example, if feedback showed your résumé lacked references or employment history then ensure you update your résumé appropriately. 

I am wondering how you have survived thus far, as would a potential employer. Provide necessary details to explain why you have no employment history. Perhaps you will have to begin at an entry level position to establish employment history.
If you are truly fed up with the entire employment process perhaps self employment is for you. I am familiar with several individuals who provide lawn care, auto detailing, small home repairs and are pleased with their lifestyles.

Now inventory your deficits. Do you have a criminal record? Have you been unemployed for any specific legitimate reason or simply because you were enjoying your leisure? Are you physically capable of meeting employment requirements, generally language skills and basic appearance are good to evaluate. If you get an interview ask what you would need to change to land the position.

About starting a family, I assume your girlfriend has given you some idea that she will not do this unless you show stable employment. This is translated to feeling stable and safe in the relationship arena. Beginning a family is an admirable aspiration. Following through with that takes commitment and holding a decent job is an indication of commitment. 

If your significant other believes she is in need of medical or mental health care then maybe she should seek a professional evaluation or check up. Employment positions sometimes include health care insurance coverage. Take this into consideration if it is a part of your reason for seeking employment. 

I hope you are successful in your job hunt. You may even want to consider applying through a temporary employment agency. I did that at one point and this gave me exposure to a variety of positions and strongly influenced my career choice.

There are jobs out there, but there are many applicants as well so put yourself in the mindframe of the employer.

Be honest with them and with yourself.

Dress for success.

Research the company before applying and utilize that research to your advantage.

Be realistic.

I hope this helps.

James