Are relationships overrated?

Many messages in society lead people to think that relationships are the ultimate achievement.  Hollywood has glamorized relationships for years, and from an early childhood age, many people idolize the idea of being in a relationship.  From princesses meeting their prince to people finding their one perfect match, Hollywood has sent us some interesting messages about relationships.  When you find someone you match with, it can feel pretty magical and like a fairytale.  However, the reality of relationships is that there are plenty of low times as well. 

Due to the many messages in society that idolize relationships, many people struggle with putting too much dependency on them.  Some people believe the messages and think that it will be the most magical experience in their lives.  As magical as they are, they come with lows that can be hard to work through.  The confusing messages about how magical they become even more confusing when going through some dark times in a relationship.  That person is left thinking they have met the wrong person because it is not as magical as it should be when in reality, dark times are only natural.  If someone can go into a relationship expecting some dark times, that person will be more likely to have a healthy relationship that can last. 

Some people will look to relationships to fix the negatives in their lives.  They will think that mental health issues and overall drive will be fixed if they meet the right person.  This can easily lead to dependence on a relationship because for those people; their relationship needs to be everything to them.  While your partner is a really important person in your life, they should not be everything to you because that is too much weight on one person in your life.  The highs of being in a healthy relationship are high, but the lows can be pretty low.  If there is a balance of other things in someone’s life that brings value, then the lows will not feel as low.