Did I get into another relationship too fast even though I’m extremely happy?

Hey there, I! Thank you for reaching out with your question! I am honored to be able to offer some insight. 

It looks like you're looking for some guidance when it comes to a relationship issue that you're experiencing. I'm sorry to hear that you experienced a toxic relationship. It can take a very long time to heal after a damaging experience in a relationship. Your last relationship sounds like it was very traumatic in a lot of ways for you- this person taught you to expect the worst out of him- that he was a liar and he could not be trusted. That is something that is really, really hard to get over and move past from. It makes sense to me that you are having some anxiety in your current relationship and wondering if you are moving too fast into a new one after getting out of that damaging one!

The experiences that you had in that previous relationship were, although not in the "traditional sense of the word", traumatic for you. That trauma created a pattern that you have learned how to respond to, prepare for, and expect over time. Now that you have removed yourself from the situation, the person may be gone, yes, but those feelings remain because your body and brain are still programmed to expect that pattern to repeat. That definitely can take some time to "rewire".  That anxiety that you are feeling is the reminder of what you have been through in that relationship, it is your body preparing for the battle that you used to have to engage in with your ex-partner. It's a sad thing, but there are things that can be done to get you through this.

I would recommend a few things!

1. Talk to your current (new) partner about your previous experience in relationships. They need to be aware of things that may be triggering to you. For example, honesty is going to be extremely important in this new relationship due to your previous experiences. Even things like being dishonest about silly stuff could be enough to really impact your mental health while you are in this recovery stage. Your new partner should be aware and committed to helping you in healing from those experiences. 

2. Therapy can be a wonderfully useful tool in healing. A therapist can help you to make sense of the experiences that you've been through as well as understand how to work through the current anxiety you are experiencing and deal with managing it as it arises. That can be very useful as you attempt to make this new relationship work. 

3. Expand your support system. Connection is SO important. People and relationships are the best way to heal. Surround yourself with supportive people. 

I hope that you found this helpful!

Amanda