How do I start learning to accept myself being bisexual?

Hi J- I think it is important to find acceptance within ourselves. We are all perfectly fine they way we are.  It can be scary to open up about those personal things about ourselves when we think/feel that people will judge us or see us differently. We may fear change to our "norms" within our family and friend circles. This can make us be reluctant to express this wonderful thing about us because of that fear and we don't want to tell anyone about this important part of who we are and what makes us happy. 

There will come a time where you will have to decide if your happiness is more important to you than the opinion of others and what level that opinion that plays in your life to keep you from enjoying your life to the fullest as your true self.  

J- I think it will also be important for you to address your fear of what could happen if you let your family and friends know about your sexuality.  What would be the consequence?  Just know that if anyone makes you feel sadness or shame about your sexuality then you have to decide if their opinion continues to be a factor in your continued happiness? Do you want to live your life for their opinions and possibly miss out potential loves in your life? 

What would change for you? Would you still allow those people to have that much power and control in your life? There are other options. You can love them from afar and not let them dictate how you find love in your life.  You could talk to them and ask if your sexuality would really change the love and care that they have shown you over the years prior to them finding out that your sexuality differs from theirs?  If their answer is yes, then you have to decide if those persons should really have that much power and control in your life.

I hope this was helpful and I am wishing you all the best on your journey of discovering the real you. 

Take care of yourself,  

Patt Carrington, LPC