How does one overcome resentment?

Resentment is a result of a perception that someone has treated you unfairly. Although the person you resent may not have specifically intended to hurt you, their words or actions may cause you to feel intense disappointment. How resentment impacts your relationship depends on who is harboring the resentment. In your situation, you are the one feeling resentful towards your husband, this resentment may lead you to express anger unexpectedly, have less empathy for him, or you may begin to emotionally withdraw from the relationship. 

Some tips to help you overcome the resentment:

Consider why letting go of the resentment is difficult

What feelings arise when you consider letting go of the resentment? Letting go of resentment can trigger fears, or even the perception that you are "giving in".  Acknowledge the thoughts and feelings that come up and work to challenge those thoughts.

Focus on the good things

Thinking about your husbands good qualities can help you put feelings into perspective, which in turn can reduce the power the resentment has over you.

Learn to communicate effectively and express your feelings

Think about how to express how you are feeling emotionally using an I statement "I feel angry when you _________". Focusing on your feelings first, not just pointing out the behavior of others will lead to less defensiveness.

Learn ways to compromise

Genuine compromise can help make the relationship feel more balanced. With bitterness no longer present, the feelings of resentment can lessen. 

Learn to practice self calming and relaxation techniques

This could be deep breathing, taking a walk, journaling, or any unplugged downtime. 

When you find it difficult to manage the resentment on you own, you may find some benefits from therapy. This may be individual therapy or even couples therapy. Marriages can recover from resentment, it can take time and consistent effort. It challenges you to forgive the hurt that has been caused by your partner, which is not always easy. Whether you decide to work on this on your own, or to seek therapy, just remember that relationships can move past resentment and the future can be bright.