I wanna know what to do

Hi Praise.  Thank you for taking that first step to reach out for help.  From my understanding, I gather you do not feel chosen, wanted, or valued by your partner. You may be feeling alone by your partner not spending time together and choosing others over you.  This type of rejection can be painful and affect how we feel and act. Relationship issues can also affect our self esteem, motivation and ability to focus and work, and connect emotionally with others. Are you together as a couple or has the relationship ended?

In a relationship we need to have open, honest communication with our partner.  By expressing your feelings and making your needs known you can ensure you and your partner are on the same page and want the same outcomes in your relationship. There must be mutual respect and understanding to accomplish this. 

It's important to focus on what is in your control.  Do what you need to take care of your mental health and well being.  Engage in hobbies and activities that bring you joy and help calm and distract you from the stress you are experiencing.  Get outside for exercise and sunlight.  Eat healthy, drink plenty of water, avoid alcohol. Do not isolate.  Socially and emotionally connect with friends and family.  Lean into your support system to manage the hurt and loneliness. Talk about your feelings to those who support and care about you. Go out and meet with friends. Volunteer and help others.  Journal your feelings. Listen to music.  Practice mindfulness and focus on gratitudes. Pray and meditate. 

Relationship difficulties can lead to depression and anxiety. Get professional help to manage your mental health.

In individual counseling you meet with an experienced, licensed therapist in a safe space to self reflect, express your feelings,  and learn skills to help navigate this situation.  You will develop techniques to build confidence, learn healthy boundaries, understand how to effectively communicate, and form healthy relationships. 

You are not alone.  Find the support and help you need to be a healthier, happier you. Take care of yourself.  Wishing you all the best.