My wife doesn't believe that I trust her

Hello.

Thank you for reaching out to BetterHelp to help get some of your concerns answered. It is not always easy to reach out and ask for help.  My hope is to answer your concern to the best of my ability.

I am sorry that your wife does not believe that you trust her.  With your question being the only information that I have I would consider or wonder if there has been anything that has happened in the past to cause these trust issues.

Relationships can be a very deep source of joy, but they can be a ground for anxious thoughts and feelings.  Relationship anxiety can arise at any point of the partnership, and stir up a lot of stress.  In fact as couples get closer, anxiety can become more intense.  Thoughts can come in such as: Can this last? Do I really like him or her? Should we slow down? They may even ask if that person is losing interest. 

I think that there is something that happened in the past where you may have lost trust in her at some point, this is maybe why she is questioning and does not believe you when you say you do trust her.  As I said it is very hard to gauge that.

Ultimately, I think it is important to follow through with what you say. For example, be true to your word and follow through on your actions. Also you have to communicate effectively, it is important for both parties to communicate effectively. This is such an essential part of a relationship no matter what, both need to communicate. I think because you say you do trust her, make sure you remind your partner that it also takes time to build and earn trust. This is something that does not occur overnight.  I think you have to do what is right and what you believe is right.  I think it is important to show those feelings as well. Be honest with yourself and your partner.  These things should help you show that you do trust her.  Also ask her why she doesn't believe you may help too, and therefore you can communicate about it further and hopefully get that resolved.