What are some ways I can get over severe separation anxiety from my significant other?

Hi there!

First, I want you to know that this feeling is absolutely normal. I would, too, begin feeling anxious knowing that he is going to have to leave again soon. It's difficult to thrive in a long-distance relationship, particularly when they're having to split attention and time, but it is very attainable with some healthy coping skills and self-relaxation. 

I would try to express your feelings in an open and honest manner, while taking into consideration the fact that he may feel like he does need to see you, family, friends... etc. all in the same trip. It may be difficult for him to manage that in a timely fashion. 

Next, when you are able to spend some time with him try your hardest to show gratitude for that-simply enjoy the time in the moment and focus on the here and now... not thinking about the fact that he will have to be leaving in a couple of weeks. Gratitude and mindfulness can do wonders for our mental state.

When those feelings of anxiety do come up, try your best to recognize them for what they are. All too often, our anxiety about the separation itself manifests into hard feelings toward your partner or yourself. Accept that you are anxious due to the separation-not that you are made or upset with him or yourself. Once you have accepted that, use some coping skills to help! Examples of these are writing to him, using some self-care for yourself, deep breathing, grounding techniques, drawing, music, exercise, etc.

Relax. I know its so much easier said than done but if you need to google, google! I find Youtube videos for short meditations, deep breathing techniques all of the time! 

Keep a healthy communication with your partner. As mentioned above, express your feelings openly and honestly, but also just share your day with him! The highs, lows, and the in-betweens. Engage with each other and just check in!

Another great idea to help keep each other close, so to speak, is to keep a memorable trinket or picture of each other nearby throughout the day. Even while I work, I like to keep pictures of my family nearby to bring a smile to my face whenever I see them.

I know this situation is so difficult but I do hope something of these approaches help you! Enjoy your time with him as much as you can.