Hello! My name is Bob and I am a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. I have 30+ years’ experience providing services in Chemical and Mental health as well as disability services. My early years were serving individuals with the co-occurring disorders of chemical and mental health. They are still my “people”. The past 20 years I have been serving individuals with intellectual disabilities as a supervisor and manager.
I believe everyone wants to feel good about themselves and can solve their problems. Sometimes, solving our problems involves others. That's part of being independent and resourceful, knowing when we need others.
I like people and will be curious about you as well as your issues. I’ll believe in you! You’ll feel that caring and curious spirit.
If you work with me, this is what I’m most confident about:
• You’ll like and accept yourself, with all your beauty, current struggles and flaws.
• You’ll learn to manage your feelings so they don’t manage you. Doing so will help you be successful.
• You’ll rediscover your purpose and become more hopeful.
• You’ll discover gifts and strengths that you didn’t know you had. But, you’ll also have realistic expectations of yourself as well as life itself. Being human is beautiful and hard, even sometimes terrible but oh so worthwhile and wonderful.
On December 26, 2004 I was body surfing off the Puerto Vallarta. It was the day of the tsunami which devastated Indonesia. A large wave beyond my skill level broke my neck and damaged my spinal cord. That savage gift and personal walk with disability has enhanced all of my skills and knowledge. So, I’m also personally and professionally well-versed in loss, life transitions and transformation. Mental and chemical health have been part of my personal journey.
My approach to therapy is person centered: you're the expert on your life and will determine the direction and depth of therapy. There is no substitute for your wisdom, intuition and the steps you’ve already taken to solve your problems. We will work together but like physical therapy most of the work will be accomplished outside of our sessions. I lead with empathy and warmth but once you know and trust me, I won’t shirk from compassionate, respectful honesty. Compassion without honesty is enabling.
We will work together in a positive manner. I'll be honest with you I don't think we're a good fit.
I primarily use evidence-based techniques including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), motivational interviewing, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and relapse prevention approaches. I tend to take a solution focused approach but some individuals may need significant time to process and heal from childhood pain, trauma or previous relationships. Dialectical behavior therapy can help you develop skills such as emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness. CBT can help you see the connection between thoughts, feelings and behavior. Motivational interviewing will help you increase your motivation and focus on your progress. Relapse prevention takes a positive approach to learning from your current and past journey to chemical health.
As referenced in the opening paragraph, I have worked with individuals who have a wide range of concerns including addictions, depression, anxiety, disability, grief and loss as well as trauma.
Most of us are ambiguous about change and it takes courage to seek healing and wellness. If you are ready to take further steps, I’m here to support and empower you.
I look forward to working with you,
Bob (Robert) Wagner LP
PS: Outside of work, I’m passionate about my family, both the biological as well as the family I’ve chosen. I love to read, be involved in my community and sports.
Additional areas of focus: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Sleeping disorders, Anger management, Career difficulties, Depression, Coaching, Commitment issues, Divorce and separation, Drug and alcohol addiction, Family of origin issues, Fatherhood issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, Intellectual disability, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Personality disorders, Prejudice and discrimination
Clinical approaches: Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy
MN Psychologist LP4010
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Robert is amazing, and has helped me change my life for the better. Forever thankful is an understatement!
Written on Apr 19, 2023 after therapy with Robert for 1 year and 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, depression, self esteem, coping with life changes, and trauma and abuse
Robert was very good at helping me see the big picture regading my marriage issues and understand that my spouse was not the only one that needed to make some changes.
Written on Dec 06, 2022 after therapy with Robert for 3 months on issues concerning family conflicts
Wonderfully kind and self aware, only changing due to needing a female therapist for trauma processing
Written on Aug 29, 2022 after therapy with Robert for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and adhd
My months working with Robert have been extremely rewarding. I was dedicated to making a difference in my life, and he was dedicated to help, listen and support me through the process.
As hesitant as I was to do on-line counseling, Robert made it comfortable and rewarding.
Thanks for the months of discussions and advice.
Written on Jul 09, 2022 after therapy with Robert for 5 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, and grief
He is a very patient understanding and listens to what is said - he offers his experience and multiple ways to better myself
Written on May 24, 2022 after therapy with Robert for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, and bipolar disorder
My time with Bob has been quite transformative. He’s very intuitive and thoughtful. He also isn’t afraid to challenge you, but also offer great tools! I’d recommend Bob to everyone!
Written on May 16, 2022 after therapy with Robert for 3 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, and self esteem