Recovery is a long and soulful process. Finding a counselor with whom to collaborate on your personalized journey to a more whole and independent life is like a hero who needs a good sidekick. If you choose to work with me on your recovery and healing journey I will be a faithful sidekick and you will be the hero of your story. I will encourage you, give you feedback, share hard truths with you, maybe even confront you, give you sage counsel, and essentially be part of your tribe. But like every hero's journey, at the end you will have to face your fears without me. But you will have changed, grown, become larger than your anxieties, rewritten your story by replacing words of doubt, pain and languish with words that more accurately and compassionately represent you and the growth you have worked so hard for.
I am a psychotherapist here in the mountains of North Carolina. Since I graduated from Montreat College I have achieved full licensure (LCMHC) and I have almost completed my Licensed Substance Abuse Counselor (LSAC-A). For the past 3 years I have worked in a recovery based, person-centered therapeutic community with incredible individuals who suffer from major mental health challenges and in some cases addictions as well. Empathy, warmth, humor and confrontation are my strong suits in the therapeutic relationship. My specialty is in treating disorders of overcontrol. As in, so much self-control it gets in the way of expressing yourself, or gets in the way of living a meaningful life. Maladaptive perfectionism falls into this category, along with all-or-nothing thinking, resistance to feedback, loneliness, anxiety, treatment resistant depression and OCD. My preferred modality is Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy, I also use Narrative Therapy, Eco Therapy, Existential Therapy and I do Brainspotting, Natural Flow EMDR, and mindfulness. I would be honored to get to know you.
May your recovery be profound, may your recovery lead to wholeness, may your recovery sustain.
Respectfully, Thomas Wilder MA, NCC, LCMHC, LSAC-A
Additional areas of focus: Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Sleeping disorders, Anger management, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression, Coping with life changes, Abandonment, Attachment issues, Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Codependency, Commitment issues, Control issues, Dependent personality, Dissociation, Drug and alcohol addiction, Eating and food-related issues, Emptiness, Family problems, Fatherhood issues, First responder issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, Hoarding, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Veteran and Armed Forces Issues, Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Personality disorders, Post-traumatic stress, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Self-love, Sex addiction, Sexual dysfunction, Social anxiety and phobia, Young adult issues
Clinical approaches: Client-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Somatic Therapy
NC LCMHC 14474
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Thomas Wilder. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
Thomas has become like a big brother I’ve never had. He has seen me at the start of a traumatic life event and slowly turn into a better man, with his help. He always respects me and doesn’t judge but will speak his mind. He is full of wisdom and is a gentle soul. I’m proud to call him a friend.
Written on Aug 19, 2024 after therapy with Thomas for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, bipolar disorder, and compassion fatigue
I don’t think words can do justice as to how much Thomas has helped and guided me to achieve a much more balanced and healthy life. I, like many, struggled with the idea of starting therapy, but the second I met Thomas I felt as if I was talking to an old friend. The way Thomas works is to allow you the freedom to make your own decisions, but whe prepares you to make those decisions in a healthy way. To give perspective to anyone reading this - I had the worst year of my life and Thomas stuck with me through the entire year and now I am the happiest I have ever been. I implore anyone to meet with Thomas and begin your journey to fulfillment, individuation, and inner peace. My only regret is not meeting him earlier, but as he has taught me, things happen as they should and we just always be thankful for the challenges we are provided.
Written on Jul 18, 2024 after therapy with Thomas for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
I literally recommend Better Help to anyone and everyone. Wether you’re experiencing a high or low, we all deserve emotional maintenance and/or growth. Thomas has helped me immensely along my path. I couldn’t recommend him or BetterHelp more highly!
Written on Nov 29, 2023 after therapy with Thomas for 1 year and 3 months on issues concerning addictions, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, coaching, and adhd
I have been working with Thomas on a variety of life issues for over a month now. He has played a key role in helping me to grieve, process, and grow as a person. He makes me feel heard, offers great advice and wisdom, and he has helped me in a profound way. He was a perfect fit for my first time trying therapy. I cannot recommend him enough.
Written on Mar 15, 2023 after therapy with Thomas for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, grief, and coping with life changes
Thomas has been great to work with. He listens without judgement, and offers support anytime he can.
Written on Mar 09, 2023 after therapy with Thomas for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, and addictions
Having Mr. Wilder in your pocket is no small blessing…..kind, funny, wise and present.
We move toward the light together and for that I am grateful.
Written on Jan 17, 2023 after therapy with Thomas for 5 months on issues concerning family conflicts, and intimacy-related issues